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So yeah, first a bit of background: all throughout my life he pretty much ignored me and favored the rest of my siblings. He forms opinions without even trying to get the facts straight. The way he treats me boils down to this example: I work my ass off all day long (doesn't matter what, usually chores or until recently finding a job, finally succeeded there) when I take a break and he gets home and sees me, he treats it as if I haven't done shit all day long (even when all the weeds have clearly been pulled or whatever I did) He insists I'm lazy and never help around anywhere, despite the fact (acnowledged by my younger brother) that I've done at least as much as my older and all of my cousins (who I have no problem with btw) put together in the last ten years. (there's always something to be done in my family)
He believes he's ALWAYS right and can't take it whenever you prove him wrong. To him, a discussion means that he talks and you agree (he doesn't do that only with me btw). He actually becomes aggressive whenever you get too close to proving him wrong. If you try to go further, threatening with violence is his modus operandi. Also expect him to make adjustments to whatever claim he made when he finds out he was wrong and claims you're either an idiot for thinking he was wrong or that you misheard the previous time.
So last night, after my little sister's birthday party (everyone except my mom, sis and bro had already left), he had to much to drink and we got into an argument again (stupid shit about old filmrolls vs digital photography). He brings up the whole lazy deal again and tells me to shut it. But I'm too pissed of at this point (final drop) to stop and keep telling him he's wrong. So he actually goes trough with his threaths and attacks me. Out of instinct I grabbed the first thing I could (his finger) and twisted it and broke it.
He hasn't called in the cops or anything, but off course, now he claims he never attacked me at all and that I was out of line. He already told my uncles about "what happened" but according to my brother, they thankfully didn't believe him because of 2 things:
1) they where there yesterday and had a fair idea of how much he had to drink (from the moment they arrived at least)
2) mostly because of the claim that I initiated the attack. Anyone who actually knows me knows I never initiate.
According to him, by the way, breaking his finger (even though I wasn't really thinking at the moment) was a cheap shot.
So, now I'd like to ask you all, what do you think about it? Was what I did wrong? How do you think you would've reacted? I know that you don't have much reason to believe me, seeing as you're only presented one side of the story, but I'd still like to know what you think.
(Also, I have to say this before anyone gets the wrong idea: he doesn't have a drinking problem. He's an ass and it gets magnified by factor 10 when he's drunk, but that doesn't happen much at all)
He believes he's ALWAYS right and can't take it whenever you prove him wrong. To him, a discussion means that he talks and you agree (he doesn't do that only with me btw). He actually becomes aggressive whenever you get too close to proving him wrong. If you try to go further, threatening with violence is his modus operandi. Also expect him to make adjustments to whatever claim he made when he finds out he was wrong and claims you're either an idiot for thinking he was wrong or that you misheard the previous time.
So last night, after my little sister's birthday party (everyone except my mom, sis and bro had already left), he had to much to drink and we got into an argument again (stupid shit about old filmrolls vs digital photography). He brings up the whole lazy deal again and tells me to shut it. But I'm too pissed of at this point (final drop) to stop and keep telling him he's wrong. So he actually goes trough with his threaths and attacks me. Out of instinct I grabbed the first thing I could (his finger) and twisted it and broke it.
He hasn't called in the cops or anything, but off course, now he claims he never attacked me at all and that I was out of line. He already told my uncles about "what happened" but according to my brother, they thankfully didn't believe him because of 2 things:
1) they where there yesterday and had a fair idea of how much he had to drink (from the moment they arrived at least)
2) mostly because of the claim that I initiated the attack. Anyone who actually knows me knows I never initiate.
According to him, by the way, breaking his finger (even though I wasn't really thinking at the moment) was a cheap shot.
So, now I'd like to ask you all, what do you think about it? Was what I did wrong? How do you think you would've reacted? I know that you don't have much reason to believe me, seeing as you're only presented one side of the story, but I'd still like to know what you think.
(Also, I have to say this before anyone gets the wrong idea: he doesn't have a drinking problem. He's an ass and it gets magnified by factor 10 when he's drunk, but that doesn't happen much at all)