My advice on the n-word is just don't use it.
The reason black people use it to refer to each other (with an -a as they say) is complicated and can be used negatively or positively against each other in different situations. Again, it's complicated.
If you aren't black and want to use the word (endearingly), save yourself the headache and only use it around your black friends if they specifically are comfortable with it. No black group is the same and just because your black friends thinks it's ok for you to use it with them doesn't mean all black people will be.
I don't care either way, but I also never use the word endearingly or negatively.
The reason black people use it to refer to each other (with an -a as they say) is complicated and can be used negatively or positively against each other in different situations. Again, it's complicated.
If you aren't black and want to use the word (endearingly), save yourself the headache and only use it around your black friends if they specifically are comfortable with it. No black group is the same and just because your black friends thinks it's ok for you to use it with them doesn't mean all black people will be.
I don't care either way, but I also never use the word endearingly or negatively.
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