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[qster]

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wait a month or so before you make your comeback. Make sure she is ready to be back in a relationship.

 

[Zero Sora]

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Chances are that after the break up, she might not want to be in a relationship for a while. Usually a couple of months.

 

[Teiku 5]

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so i just wanna pose a question? is it weird that i tell her i love her when we say bye? sometimes i say it first, sometimes she does. but i'm just kinda a loving person so i think i say that to a lot of people.

and is it bad that sometimes i call her my big sister and she calls me her little brother? its something i started a long time ago cuz she's always there for me (even though i'm older than her) and she helped continue it. same way, sometimes i say it fist, sometimes she does.

 

[Deleted member 74488]

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I shall shut my mouth and let you hope.

 

[Optimus Rhyme]

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so i just wanna pose a question? is it weird that i tell her i love her when we say bye? sometimes i say it first, sometimes she does. but i'm just kinda a loving person so i think i say that to a lot of people.

and is it bad that sometimes i call her my big sister and she calls me her little brother? its something i started a long time ago cuz she's always there for me (even though i'm older than her) and she helped continue it. same way, sometimes i say it fist, sometimes she does.

1. If she says it to you first sometimes, I'd say it's fine.

2.Ehh... The problem I could see with this is that it contributes to the whole issue of 'I don't want to lose you as a friend' if you ended up telling her how you felt, because she could be seeing it as a friendly, sibling-like relationship. You get in the friend zone, it's game over.

 

[Unabomber]

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the big sister/little brother ordeal you got goin' on, trashes your chances with her in my opinion.

 

[Teiku 5]

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<.<

>.>

i'm gonna go crawl in a hole now and DIE! lol, jk.

see, maybe i'll be the exception to the rule though.



just noticed crossroads was banned....thats refreshing.

 

[Optimus Rhyme]

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Yeah he went on a rant about loli. As Grace Assassin nicely put it, he was,

"An hero in the crusade against lolicon"

 

[Teiku 5]

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grace is amazing sometimes. see my sig lol.

he's pretty smart too. he can win a debate in most subjects.

 

[Optimus Rhyme]

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Although I doubt he has my cunning, charm, and good looks.
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She has a bf now, so there's not much you can do ATM but when you see her, I think you gotta kinda act more like an option for a relationship and not so much of a good friend. Don't get me wrong, still be nice to her and stuff, but you gotta let her know that you're a pretty cool guy, too.

 

[Teiku 5]

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and i guess this is where my personality fails me :-/

 

[Optimus Rhyme]

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What do you mean?

 

[Teiku 5]

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my personality is that i'm EVERYONE's friend. now of course to some people i'm just associates and to some i'm real good friends but its just who i am. it would be just about impossible for me to "act cool" or act like "boyfriend material" as much as i might want to. i'm just a fun guy. smart. but fun. kinda crazy at times too. but good crazy.

 

[Optimus Rhyme]

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Sorry about that, I think I phrased it wrong.

Obviously you don't want to try and act cool or tough around her, because since you've known her a while, she'd see right through you. You just need to show her that you can be more than a friend.

Is that better?

 

[Teiku 5]

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You just need to show her that you can be more than a friend.

so how do i do that? with any girl for that matter?

 

[Unabomber]

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so how do i do that? with any girl for that matter?

ask them on a date, not "hey, you wanna go see a movie?". you have to make sure that they know its a date.

 

[Teiku 5]

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......i guess maybe i can use that in the future. but for now at least, i'm not interesting in dating anyone except her.

 

[Teiku 5]

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so just to experiment, i'm not gonna be so super friendly with my friend anymore and see what happens. i won't say i love you and i wont do the brother/sister thing just to see what happens. does this sound like a bad idea? i was thinking maybe she'd ask whats up or maybe i can see how much friendliness is really coming from her.

 

[Traskix]

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i had planned to do that this summer but im just so busy. i'd have to go the gym or else i'd have no motivation.

no motivation! what about ur friend, i think thats all the motivation u need

 

[Nojerom]

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so i just wanna pose a question? is it weird that i tell her i love her when we say bye? sometimes i say it first, sometimes she does. but i'm just kinda a loving person so i think i say that to a lot of people.

and is it bad that sometimes i call her my big sister and she calls me her little brother? its something i started a long time ago cuz she's always there for me (even though i'm older than her) and she helped continue it. same way, sometimes i say it fist, sometimes she does.

naw... but you love her different. not as a sister but as the gf thing. welll yeah that can be bad. cuz u think of her different man. lol i do that alot too.