I would have agreed with you maybe even as recently as six months ago, but my mind has changed on this. Yes, I completely agree that women as well as men can be misogynist. Definitely. Not to mention, I recently read a study that confirmed something I suspected all along ? owing to the neuroplasticity of the brain, watching porn can and does alter taste: hence what we desire is not irrevocably and innately hardwired into us. So those who claim a free pass for their sexual idiosyncrasies are often being na?ve of how exactly those desires come to be?(I?m specifically thinking about the pervasive objectification of women by the media, and correspondingly, by men ).
And yet (!) I think that, in many cases, what happens in the bedroom CAN stay in the bedroom. I?m not suggesting that the bedroom is some kind of magical vacuum free from all these structures we?ve been talking about. But it is at least potentially specific and private (i.e. this ?act of domination? was a consensual act between two individuals that is only going to take place in this specific situation, and no other). I?ll grant that maybe such behaviours are a reaction to being brainwashed (though we just don?t know enough to say this for sure), but it?s possibly more a cathartic scenario, rather than one that further perpetrates violent tendencies.
Not to mention, it?s difficult to envisage sexual intercourse without ANY power dynamic. Outside of gender and its constructs, (in a heterosexual relationship) individuals are beholden to their sex. The sexual act i.e. the very act of penetration, is ? at a physical level ? reinforcing male domination. Sex is somewhat inherently violent, not just because we figure it to be so. Yes, the penis has been often hilariously, if not harmfully, been equivocated with the pen, rockets or whatever other cultural objects so as to reinscribe patriarchy, but there?s no way of getting around the fact (or is there?!) that sexual intercourse very readily lends itself to putting a man in a dominant position. And because we are fundamentally sexual creatures, that is taken as the paradigmatic model of male-female relations. Sometimes that is subverted through the male being submissive or passive. But the point is that, at the very least, it?s difficult to achieve true balance in sexual intercourse; in the heterosexual model, it positively thrives on difference, predominately in terms of power.
By the way, I?m amenable to having my argument undermined or even proved wrong, (I enjoy having the veil lifted from my eyes as it were) so go for it if you want to pick apart any of those points.
Well predicted. Benjamin is my absolute favourite, albeit his writings are quite fragmentary, so sometimes I feel he remains a bit elusive, a bit of an enigma. Which is probably a good thing. In fact, I?m very interested in the Frankfurt School as a whole. Gramsci I know I?ve read something by, but I can?t remember what? hmmm ?.
Oh yeah, it?s just as mired in bullshit as any other institution. I?m dealing with the very question of what to do right now? I just finished my master?s and my school said they wanted me back for a PHD, but it doesn?t seem like the right thing to do ? because, even if I got full funding for one, then what? ASIDE from the uncomfortability of the hypocrisy, as we know, academia is highly competitive, with much fewer positions than there are candidates. So I don?t want to spend 4 years working myself to death, not only writing the PHD, but publishing, giving papers at conferences, doing other stuff to make yourself look good, and worst of all, like you said, doing a lot of ass kissing. Even then, all UK universities are research based, so then even if you got tenure its PUBLISH OR PERISH. It just sounds like a hell of a lot of hassle. I like doing things with friends, I like having other interests, I like random time wasting. That said, I always feel like I?ll probably do a PHD when the time is right, even if I?m like 60 years old. But then, how does one stay true to themselves in any profession? Honestly, I worked a 9-5 job for 2 years in between my degrees, and even though it was in academic publishing, so I supposed it would be quite removed from the corporate culture of most companies, I was very very wrong, and without going into details because this message has got insanely long, it bothered me a lot :/