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bond of flames

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wow it's been a while haha
anyways!
to my problem at hand
about 2 months ago i broke up with my then girlfriend of a year and a half
and regretted it deeply
i tried my best to get her back
but it didnt work
now, about a month after we broke up
she started dating someone else
and apparently loves him
in my opinion its just misplaced emotions still about me
(not trying to sound self centered haha)
but while they were going out
a few times she said she still loves me and everything
but we'll most likely never be together again
which over time i've come to accept
the whole thing has been hell for me
2 of the worst times i thought about suicide
but don't worry
after, i realized thats stupid
my friends helped me with that

im getting over her
its been slow work
but im almost there
but the problem is that she wants to be friends
she still wants me in her life
i mean, i feel the same
a year and a half is a lot of time to spend with someone
you don't just want them gone
but i can't do it
its painful just to see her profile picture on facebook with her and her new boyfriend
now let alone be her friend
since we broke up
she's been smoking and drinking and stuff
and recently said she does because theres no one to really help her
it was me
but then i left
and i agreed to be her friend and then she'd quit doing that stuff
but i dont think i can do it
i also asked why her boyfriend doesnt support her
she said he does
but clearly he's not helping if she needs me
so idk what to do

i want to help her
but its too painful
im thinking about talking to her in person
and having a final goodbye
then we stop talking and everything altogether
any ideas?suggestions?
 

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Looks like you're rapping, haha. XD No offense, please. D:

Anyway, if it was me, I'd still be her friend. She wants to be friends, so okay, let's just be friends. You don't need to be so close with her and she should understand that things between you two are not going to be the same. It hurts but you're getting over her soon right? Maybe being her friend helps you realize her bad...qualities and...see that she's not the one for you.
 

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yeah man if she wants to be friends then let her be your friend, don't worry so much you have your full life ahead of you. there are plenty of girls out there that will make you happy. Enjoy them!
 

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no offense taken haha
thanks for the advice both of you
im not sure though
i don't think i can get over her alone
i mean
i wish i could find a girl to be with and keep my mind off her
then i could get over her
i know that sounds bad but hold on!
i wouldnt just be with someone so i could get over her
i'd actually be with someone i wanted to be with
yah know?
i couldnt do that to someone
 

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What I don't understand is if she really loves you, why won't she accept you back? It also kinda sounds like her new boyfriend is more of a "rebound boyfriend" than a boyfriend, especially since she says she loves you.

What has me curious is, why did you break up with her in the first place? She could be looking at that problem and thinking that there is no solution, she refuses to get back together with you.

I hope that everything will work out for you.
 

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well
when we were going out
when she would smoke
it really really bugged me
so she promised she'd stop
but then broke the promise
and thats where it started
from then we kept on arguing
and i felt like crap
and i only felt worse and worse
and its that feeling where you desperately dont want to feel it anymore
so i ended it
which was a huge mistake

idk
probably a rebound boyfriend
but she "loves" him

i tried my absolute best to get her back
but it didnt work
 
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