I want to know how this "beautiful day" went.
Well in your case we know he kinda wants to get in your pants. but I dont think its terrible to include in conversation that someone is hot. at least anyway "slip" it in (innuendo) but if it was a major conversation piece about the hottness of you then I feel you SHOULD be smart enough to defuse the situation
Ok this is were we know its obsession. There is somethng wrong with what he wants and what you will allow. You HAVE to address this issue. It's inevitable that a major objection will come up and the more you let him flirt, spoon, mention sex, etc etc etc with you the uglier the outcome will be.
1. Stop being freinds. (this sounds like its not what you want)
2. Sit down and discuss this with him like in a serious convo mentioning that you don't want him to be as...forward (god I hate that word...but nvm) This will produce either a more relaxed feeling or make him feel less comfortable around you. which may of course may not make you good friends but really. think about it:
Which would you rather have. a soft discussion, or a huge explosion when you came down to it
I kind of want to be like “BACK THE FUCK OFF”, but I definitely do not want to destroy our friendship. He is one of the best friends I’ve ever had, and I’d almost rather put up with this than loose him. Also, I have lost at least 3 other male friends because of similar issues, so collapsing the friendship is an absolute last resort. So, what would be the best way of dealing with it, in a more delicate manner? I don’t want to offend or embarrass him!
How should I negotiate seeing him next?
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While I DONT think you have to say BACK THE FUCK OFF. you can get the same result of him backign off by bringign it up in conversation. Eventually if he proceeds and advances more there will be 1 of 2 possible outcomes. You will either. give in and have sex with him or
have a major explosion because you can't take it anymore. thereby also losing the friendship...
This is sounding like the case
We know what the answer to your problem should be just by this. you obviously are good friends with him or you wouldn't let him even get close do bein innapproprate.One of my closest friends is acting inappropriately towards me, and I feel uncomfortable about it.
Recently, it has gotten quite bad, because he will rarely have a conversation with me that doesn’t involve him slipping in that he thinks I’m hot etc.
Well in your case we know he kinda wants to get in your pants. but I dont think its terrible to include in conversation that someone is hot. at least anyway "slip" it in (innuendo) but if it was a major conversation piece about the hottness of you then I feel you SHOULD be smart enough to defuse the situation
Enchanted Rose said:He often tries to manipulate things, we were playing a game, and he said for each time that I answered a question wrongly, I had to give him a hug, and he’ll ask questions like “Sooooo, who do I think has the best body I know?!” Then when I try and evade the issue, he will be like “YOU”, expecting me to somehow comment on it (?) I never bring up such topics with him, but he usually does.
Ok this is were we know its obsession. There is somethng wrong with what he wants and what you will allow. You HAVE to address this issue. It's inevitable that a major objection will come up and the more you let him flirt, spoon, mention sex, etc etc etc with you the uglier the outcome will be.
Hug=/=Spooning. sure what he's doign COULD BE viewed as innocent affection. But seriously do youhnestly believe his intentions towards you are innocent?When I was at his house the other week, he insisted that we ‘chilled on his bed’, and then he turned this into hugging/spooning, and worst of all, he kept making me lie on top of him. I was obviously uncomfortable, and kept trying to move away from him, change the subject, or making excuses. Also, he had a hard on after this, making everything even more uncomfortable, as I had to pretend I didn’t notice.
But how can I refuse a HUG from a FRIEND? What he’s suggesting could be viewed as innocent affection.
innocent affection huh?I am increasingly thinking that he wants to **** me.
if its all sexual and you feel violated , then you need to do one of two thingsI am 95% sure that he doesn’t have a crush on me, I think it’s all just sexual, so I don’t have too much sympathy for him.
I am fairly easy-going in these situations, and I am relaxed about sex related matters, but I almost feel violated.
1. Stop being freinds. (this sounds like its not what you want)
2. Sit down and discuss this with him like in a serious convo mentioning that you don't want him to be as...forward (god I hate that word...but nvm) This will produce either a more relaxed feeling or make him feel less comfortable around you. which may of course may not make you good friends but really. think about it:
Which would you rather have. a soft discussion, or a huge explosion when you came down to it
Ok, so here’s the pressing issue. Once we saw this photo of us together on a night out, and we were like “omg, we look WELL hot”, which led to this bizarre in-joke that we were beautiful. Because we haven’t spent a lot of time together this academic year, he made me agree to a ‘beautiful day’, and he’s taking it extremely seriously. I actually made a soundtrack for this day…yeah quite sad. This would consist of us spending time together during the day (not sure what we’d do yet), and then clubbing in the evening, and then me staying the night at his. A few problems: he’s tried it on when we’ve been out before i.e touching me, getting excessively close, and I just don’t want to sleep at his….he will insist I sleep in his bed and wear his clothes for pyjamas. Wouldn’t be surprised if he got in with me.
But he also said that I had to wear something “sexy” in the day, and I tried to be like, “no, I can’t because of the weather”, but that’s a crap excuse considering it’s extremely warm, it’s sort of necessary to wear little.
I kind of want to be like “BACK THE FUCK OFF”, but I definitely do not want to destroy our friendship. He is one of the best friends I’ve ever had, and I’d almost rather put up with this than loose him. Also, I have lost at least 3 other male friends because of similar issues, so collapsing the friendship is an absolute last resort. So, what would be the best way of dealing with it, in a more delicate manner? I don’t want to offend or embarrass him!
How should I negotiate seeing him next?
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While I DONT think you have to say BACK THE FUCK OFF. you can get the same result of him backign off by bringign it up in conversation. Eventually if he proceeds and advances more there will be 1 of 2 possible outcomes. You will either. give in and have sex with him or
have a major explosion because you can't take it anymore. thereby also losing the friendship...
Or he's just a thick-headed dumbshit.
This is sounding like the case