Hello all,
I'll be quick to the point. The truth is, I am currently engaged to the woman I have loved for years. However, there is one thing she does which to this day, both annoys me and makes me afraid: how close she is to her mother. Now, I understand this could sound crazy, but let me explain myself.
Her mom sends her at least 50-100 messages on a daily basis. They are in consistent communication, so much so that if I go out with my fiancé to watch a movie, her mother not only knows that but even which movie we watched and at what time. She knows the food she eats. She knows her schedule better than I do. And her mother is very in tuned with knowing every aspect of her daughters life.
Now this may sound natural, I've been convincing myself that for the past couple of months. But what worries me about this is how much her mother gives her opinions. We are now planning a wedding, and every wedding planning my fiancé suggests pretty much comes from her mothers opinion. The photographer, and pretty much everything. And it gets worse, my fiancé has barely spent time with my own family, so when we went out for a breakfast (1 out of 2 times where she ever sits alone with me and my parents) her mother calls her. And guess what- her mother is upset. Why? Because my fiancé chose to spend time with my family instead of hers, among many reasons.
My my fiancé is too sweet, and does not recognize the slow emotional enslavement she is undergoing. I glanced over at her shortly after that call, which basically ruined the outing with my parents as she was quiet the entire time because she was upset. Worst yet, I peek at what she is texting her mom and it is all "sorry's" and "I don't know what to do" and "I will come back home now."
is it just me, or do I need to find a way to limit how much she and her mother interact? If so what can I do. I confronted my fiancé about this but she insists her mother is the kindest person she knows and gets upset at me for insinuating there is an issue that needs controlling. Am I the crazy one?
I'll be quick to the point. The truth is, I am currently engaged to the woman I have loved for years. However, there is one thing she does which to this day, both annoys me and makes me afraid: how close she is to her mother. Now, I understand this could sound crazy, but let me explain myself.
Her mom sends her at least 50-100 messages on a daily basis. They are in consistent communication, so much so that if I go out with my fiancé to watch a movie, her mother not only knows that but even which movie we watched and at what time. She knows the food she eats. She knows her schedule better than I do. And her mother is very in tuned with knowing every aspect of her daughters life.
Now this may sound natural, I've been convincing myself that for the past couple of months. But what worries me about this is how much her mother gives her opinions. We are now planning a wedding, and every wedding planning my fiancé suggests pretty much comes from her mothers opinion. The photographer, and pretty much everything. And it gets worse, my fiancé has barely spent time with my own family, so when we went out for a breakfast (1 out of 2 times where she ever sits alone with me and my parents) her mother calls her. And guess what- her mother is upset. Why? Because my fiancé chose to spend time with my family instead of hers, among many reasons.
My my fiancé is too sweet, and does not recognize the slow emotional enslavement she is undergoing. I glanced over at her shortly after that call, which basically ruined the outing with my parents as she was quiet the entire time because she was upset. Worst yet, I peek at what she is texting her mom and it is all "sorry's" and "I don't know what to do" and "I will come back home now."
is it just me, or do I need to find a way to limit how much she and her mother interact? If so what can I do. I confronted my fiancé about this but she insists her mother is the kindest person she knows and gets upset at me for insinuating there is an issue that needs controlling. Am I the crazy one?