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[9890]

Just from ebing on the internet and being able to experience a eFriendship with you is a total blast, your a young, smart, wonderful person, full of thought, don't know why someone wouldn't want for you to be the first chick they call to go out on a Friday night or whatever.

Not to brag or anything, but I've never been in such a situation, because I've always been one of the first to call for plans on a weekend etc. "I get the shiz pumpn' yo!"

Anyhow why not take action babe? Ask them why they aren't so accepting of you? Seek answers. That's what I'd do in your situation. I'll drop you a PM later, if ya wanna talk?

<3

 

[Enchanted Rose]

Really snow, you don't need ALOT of people to have fun, just ONE really good person who you enjoy being around and who likes you for who you are.

QUOTED for major truth.

When I was in sixth form, I moved friendship groups about 3 times, not because I'm excessively flighty, but just because everyone changes, and the first time I felt my friends were just really shallow, and were obsessed with being popular, and the next time it was kind of to avoid my ex boyfriend.

Once you find someone you get along with really well (in your classes or whatever), then you can start hanging out with them at lunch/break times and hope they'll integrate you into their circle. I'm sure people will be more receptive to you.

And I know it takes confidence to just change friends because you have to consider how your 'old friends will react etc, but I definitely think it's just worth it in the long run, to be with people you feel entirely comfortable with, that had the same kind of temperament and interests as you.

Either that, or just be a complete Nazi in organising social events for you and your friends, and just text around everyone like "HEY GUYS WHAT TIME ARE WE MEETING AGAIN?!!!" type thing xD

If it doesn't work out, remember not long until you're at University.

I don't think you should be made to feel this crap by people who are supposedly friends with you when it's obvious how much of a nice girl you are. So good luck.

 

[9890]

I don't think you should be made to feel this crap by people who are supposedly friends with you when it's obvious how much of a nice girl you are. So good luck.

So true, snowdog, you're a lovely girl, who deserves the best, if they can't at least uphold their duties as friends, move on and find some real peep's out there that like you for you, and not because your the last girl on the list to associate with. <3

 

[snowdog]

You guys are all so sweet :3 Seriously, I think you've been better friends than my RL ones. D: No, I know you have been. <3

Examples for you, Lenny...

- MANY instances of me trying to organise something - something I know they'd like, such as a trip to the city, or cinema, or something - and them completely overriding it, which usually results in them organising it themselves, not getting back to me when I ask about it, then going themselves. Without me.
- A few of them forgot my birthday despite me remembering all of theirs. I don't care about a card or anything, it'd just be nice for them to have said Happy Birthday.
- Me inviting them to things - to mine or something, which, granted, happens rarely because my house is really small - and them all saying they can't. This might be believable if it was like, a couple of them, but all of them, every single time?
- Them saying they can't do something because they're busy, which usually translates to "We made plans together". I have proof - they think I'm deaf and tend to discuss it the day after at school. Cause I'm totally not going to hear them. D:
- This time last year I had some problems. I told them about it and it sorta ended with them being kinda pissy with me and tending to leave me on my own. >.>
- Me telling one something, then them blabbing it to everyone else.
- Them discussing me with other people. I'm not paranoid. I know they're doing it - refer to above, they think I'm deaf or something.

Gah. D:

Thanks DA. <3

Thanks for all that, ER. I think it's the main reason I'm looking forward to university - I know there'll be people with the same interests as me, seeing as all the courses are specialised. I'm hoping I'll make some friends out of it...

GungonX, you're awesome. <3

I think when I get back to school, I'll ask them about it. It'd be too hard to talk to them all individually, or worse still, try to get them all together. =/

<3

 

[khluva010]

I think when I get back to school, I'll ask them about it. It'd be too hard to talk to them all individually, or worse still, try to get them all together. =/

Yeah that definately will help, and if not forget them! lol find some people who will love and respect you for you. I don't think I've ever met you in person, and we haven't talked in the forums before but from what I've seen and heard, your a pretty cool person!!! I mean obviously, you have like trillions of rep power and I believe you have your own FC, it shouldn't be too hard for ya! There are good people in the world and you're one of them and like I said you should find other people that are just as badass as you. But definatly talk it out with your friends. Sorry if this doesn't help.

 

[Gullwing Yunie]

Hey.

Asking them about it seems like a good idea to me. It'd probably help you find out where you stand with them. And then maybe you can figure out whether or not you should find new friends.

Whatever you do, I hope that in the end you end up with people that care about you and respect you. You really are a kind-hearted person, and you deserve to be treated with the same kindness you show others. <3

Sorry if I wasn't any help. :\

 

[Leonard]

Well, okay I guess your example pretty much cleared it up. ^^

If you decide to talk to them, I guess you should think beforehand what, and how you want to ask.

Otherwise, if you just approach them like that and ask them to go out with you more, they could get a wrong impression of you, for example you being too persistent about your friendship, and as a result, distant themselves even more from you.

I know this is probably not the best example and not something you'll do, but I think you get what I'm trying to say.

I'd just beforehand think of a good way to get through to them and make clear , how much this bothers and worries you. Maybe a little planning wouldn't hurt.

But anyways, I think a chat with them would definitely help clear things up.

 

[snowdog]

Thanks, it helps, I promise. <3

Yeah, I guess it's time to ask them about it. I just don't want to go about it in the wrong way. I'll let you guys know what happens for sure.

<3

 

[Darkness Princess]

Alright. ^_^
We'll be here waiting for you and you know that were here for you if you need us. ^_^
PM me if you need anything at all.

 

[9890]

Thanks, it helps, I promise. <3

Yeah, I guess it's time to ask them about it. I just don't want to go about it in the wrong way. I'll let you guys know what happens for sure.

<3

Yes please, because I don't want to have to come to your country just to kick their ass. <3

 

[Lycanthrope]

Well, good luck checking out what the business with your friends is, if you haven't alerady.

 

[Dinsfire]

just bring it up and at like lunch or sumthin sit by them dont wait for them..

 

[violent_anger]

with alot of people, there's a certain topic that they'll talk to you for a long time about. at least that's what it seems like to me. might help if you find that topic. the only example i can really recall is that gamers and nerds will talk easily about assassin's creed or halo or whatever, but there have been other times that i just don't remember.

 

[Mike]

*Gasp*How can people not want to be friends with Snow. They need to be taught a lesson. A painful one*brings out bat*jk jk
Anyway,just talk to them.Friends come and go,but true friends last forever(I think it was family,but I changed it =O)
Im sure that if you just talk to them,things will work out.Sadly,I am kinda in the same sititiution with a couple of my friends.But,yeah,just talk to them.

 

[snowdog]

Hm, I guess you guys are right about it. Something needs to be done.

Thanks a lot for everything. <3

 

[Lycanthrope]

You're welcome, Snowy. Just be sure to let us how it goes. You could PM me if you wanna talk about it more in deep.

 

[Samber]

I used to be in the same boat, Snow. The best thing is to first confront them about it, and if its still a struggle, it'd be best to make new friends, that's what I ended up doing. And now I have REAL friends, people who actually give a shit. And ever since i've noticed i've become much more outgoing. People have an effect on you that you may or may not notice, so be with those you want to be like, or be with those who are similar to you.
I know it will be hard to make friends, and it will be a struggle at first, but the payout will surely be worth it. Trust me.

 

[violent_anger]

 

[snowdog]

^ lol.<3

I think I'll keep that in mind, Samber. Hopefully everything is okay tomorrow.

<3

EDIT: Didn't get the chance to talk to them yesterday, but I did today. I talked to them about it, and explained how I felt about things. They said they were sorry for doing it and would try not to in future. I sorta got the impression they felt awkward though. I suppose I'll just have to see how everything goes.

Thanks a lot for all the help and the support. Means a lot to have such great friends and people around. <3 <3