Okay, so I love and respect all of my friends, and for the longest time I thought the feeling was mutual. I never get mad at them or yell at them and I can't remember any time when I got in an argument with them. Sure, we all somewhat pick on each other, but we don't really mean it. Lately, two of my friends are taking it to the extreme.
Example 1: We have open lunch and most of my friends have lunch together. We all go out and eat and have our conversations. Any time I try to contribute to the conversation, I am either told to shut up, not listened to, or ridiculed. But only by these two friends, everyone else just kinda watches, but hardly defend me. So I don't talk at all when we are together and I am yelled at for not contributing to the conversation.
Example 2: One of the two friends mentioned wanted to know something I knew about, but I promised to keep it a secret. I told her I couldn't tell her and she said "you're such a bitch" and angrily stormed off.
My whole thing is, they have always been a little more aggressive and, as they say, "bitchy". But it's never been this bad and towards me. I don't know what I did to be treated this way, and I try to not do anything to upset them. I want to confront them and tell them that they are being excessively mean to me and that I don't feel like I am respected. But knowing them, they may just yell at me more or apologize and talk about me behind my back. The other solution is to just end our friendship, but the thing is we have been friends for so long and I still have a strong attachment to them. I can't imagine not being their friend and I don't want to lose anymore of my friends. This whole situation is really tearing me up inside and I can't think of a way to deal with them without them getting more angry or lose their friendship. They are really nice and fun to be around when they are separate, but when they are together they feed off of each others energy and seem to focus it towards me.
Any advice?
Example 1: We have open lunch and most of my friends have lunch together. We all go out and eat and have our conversations. Any time I try to contribute to the conversation, I am either told to shut up, not listened to, or ridiculed. But only by these two friends, everyone else just kinda watches, but hardly defend me. So I don't talk at all when we are together and I am yelled at for not contributing to the conversation.
Example 2: One of the two friends mentioned wanted to know something I knew about, but I promised to keep it a secret. I told her I couldn't tell her and she said "you're such a bitch" and angrily stormed off.
My whole thing is, they have always been a little more aggressive and, as they say, "bitchy". But it's never been this bad and towards me. I don't know what I did to be treated this way, and I try to not do anything to upset them. I want to confront them and tell them that they are being excessively mean to me and that I don't feel like I am respected. But knowing them, they may just yell at me more or apologize and talk about me behind my back. The other solution is to just end our friendship, but the thing is we have been friends for so long and I still have a strong attachment to them. I can't imagine not being their friend and I don't want to lose anymore of my friends. This whole situation is really tearing me up inside and I can't think of a way to deal with them without them getting more angry or lose their friendship. They are really nice and fun to be around when they are separate, but when they are together they feed off of each others energy and seem to focus it towards me.
Any advice?
