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I have been a good friend of someone for nearly two years now. We used to trust one another and she would tell me how she felt and I would do the same for her. We would share our lives and our pasts and what we thought about things. We were very close, but then...
Around this springtime she ended an old relationship and after a few weeks we started dating. We used to be affectionate, like when we would go to one of our houses and down to the basement to watch Disney videos, or at my graduation party when most of the other kids had left. She kissed me before I had really thought about kissing her...
Due to her parent's rules, she wasn't allowed to see me more than once a week. Then she wasn't allowed to see any friends more than once a week, and it was hard to find time to be with her, let alone try and be in a relationship. Still, we went on a few dates and had some good times alone...
But ever since our first get-together as a couple back in early summer she has grown distant and won't talk about how she's feeling. When I kissed her, even on the cheek, she would not return the gesture... When she went on trips she would call other friends, but not me. Everytime I asked her how she was doing it was a mechanical "fine, and you?" When I asked her why that was all she would say, she just told me that "our connection broke" because summer came. She also talked about how, vaguely, how she had found something that made her want to keep people far away, but she wouldn't say what...
I told her how I felt twice this summer, one in late June and the other last night. In June we almost broke up, and last night we agreed that we would. She told me that our bond is stronger as friends than as boyfriend/girlfriend and wanted to keep that. Which means that our relationship is or will soon be over. I anticipated this because I'll be going off to college while she finishes her senior year at high school, but it's still hard...
But that's not the worst part. Before we came to that decision, she said that she was never going to let me into her heart again. She said she would trust me and love me, but that she would never let me get close again...
I don't know what is going to happen. Our romantic relationship is at an end, but it seems like our friend relationship will never be the same again. She doesn't want to trust me because I'll be too far away. I feel alienated from her, like I'm being kept far away at the end of a pole...
I don't want to be just another failure on her life, someone who comes and goes like so many friends she had before me... I don't want to be kept so far away for no other reason than distance. Our relationship I can understand, but even as friends...
Considering that I poured my heart and soul into her when we were strong friends, that I would spend hours to talk with her when she was feeling down, that I would help her and one of her friends stay together when she thought there was no hope of it left, that I was prepared to give her so much of me...
I can't help but feel like I'm being discarded now. She used to talk about how she would miss me when I left, now I can't even tell if she's sad or glad or relieved, whether I still mean anything to her...
What am I supposed to do?
Around this springtime she ended an old relationship and after a few weeks we started dating. We used to be affectionate, like when we would go to one of our houses and down to the basement to watch Disney videos, or at my graduation party when most of the other kids had left. She kissed me before I had really thought about kissing her...
Due to her parent's rules, she wasn't allowed to see me more than once a week. Then she wasn't allowed to see any friends more than once a week, and it was hard to find time to be with her, let alone try and be in a relationship. Still, we went on a few dates and had some good times alone...
But ever since our first get-together as a couple back in early summer she has grown distant and won't talk about how she's feeling. When I kissed her, even on the cheek, she would not return the gesture... When she went on trips she would call other friends, but not me. Everytime I asked her how she was doing it was a mechanical "fine, and you?" When I asked her why that was all she would say, she just told me that "our connection broke" because summer came. She also talked about how, vaguely, how she had found something that made her want to keep people far away, but she wouldn't say what...
I told her how I felt twice this summer, one in late June and the other last night. In June we almost broke up, and last night we agreed that we would. She told me that our bond is stronger as friends than as boyfriend/girlfriend and wanted to keep that. Which means that our relationship is or will soon be over. I anticipated this because I'll be going off to college while she finishes her senior year at high school, but it's still hard...
But that's not the worst part. Before we came to that decision, she said that she was never going to let me into her heart again. She said she would trust me and love me, but that she would never let me get close again...
I don't know what is going to happen. Our romantic relationship is at an end, but it seems like our friend relationship will never be the same again. She doesn't want to trust me because I'll be too far away. I feel alienated from her, like I'm being kept far away at the end of a pole...
I don't want to be just another failure on her life, someone who comes and goes like so many friends she had before me... I don't want to be kept so far away for no other reason than distance. Our relationship I can understand, but even as friends...
Considering that I poured my heart and soul into her when we were strong friends, that I would spend hours to talk with her when she was feeling down, that I would help her and one of her friends stay together when she thought there was no hope of it left, that I was prepared to give her so much of me...
I can't help but feel like I'm being discarded now. She used to talk about how she would miss me when I left, now I can't even tell if she's sad or glad or relieved, whether I still mean anything to her...
What am I supposed to do?
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