Hmm...They're about as plain as day on the forum index, appearing with fairly large crown icons (if you use either the Lite, Blaq, or SimpleClean skins) right beside them.
And as for gay marriage, all that I can say in regards to that is that it is a very taboo subject, and, considering that you called it "disgusting," I would imagine that quite a few folks were quite outraged at that. Please, I urge you to respect others' opinions and beliefs, and not deem them "disgusting," as it's against the rules to do so.