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[Home bound]

Recently I found out my father has been unfaithful to my mom. First he used my computer and go on dating websites to find "hot young singles." Not only is my dad SIXTYONE years old, his preferences were uner 30 years old. Second, I caught him trying to print out a picture of a woman he was going to meet. I later printed out that picture and hid it for safe keeping (mainly to show my friend). Now it's so obvious, he wanted me to create an e-mail for him, I can only expect he wants to create an account on the dating website.

I've always hated him for other things, but now I lost all respect for him.I feel like I need to get the hell away from him as soon as possible and never talk to that sick pervert again. I'm not sure if my mom has a clue about his infidelity(although we know he has hep. B), so I don't know what I should do. What do you guys think?

 

[Rabello]

Your dad's decisions don't really concern you, so if it was me, I would keep myself out of it. Bad for your mom, I guess, but that's how the cookie crumbles.

 

[Yannis]

I think you should remember if your father was unfair at you. Now you have a way to pay pack. Tell your mother and remember to tell me her reaction/s.

It is against law to not tell her actually. Though if your dad was only drooling at those women, it isnt illegal. Do you know if he has actually cheated?(had sex with another woman)

Remember that he is a man after all. He can drool at young women, its totally okay imo. He hasnt done anything concrete yet, right? You get that old(61 years)and see how its to be man with probably pretty silent sex life.

Let him have some fun. Maybe he was just going to fap at that picture and maybe just wanna have fun chatting with younger women.. I assume your mother is about 60 too? They arent too attractive anymore, so in a way I understand.

 

[KAIRI_SUX]

you cant really say anything yet. It's not like he had sex with them. For men looking at dirty pictures and talking to other women is just normal.
but if anything funny happens just tell your mom

 

[Yannis]

you cant really say anything yet. It's not like he had sex with them. For men looking at dirty pictures and talking to other women is just normal.
but if anything funny happens just tell your mom

Yeah.

Maybe it is just more interesting to him, when he knows those are real women, you know.. Best way would be to ask the dad in dinner table when your mother is there too xDD I know how he starts: "Oohhh, that was JUST one client of mine >:]" "Son, lets go behind that corner!"*tells the truth* "Dad, I know already, just tell mum the truth!" "Uh okay, wife, I had sex with women for all these years when we were married." "I understand, my husband, I had many hot men for all these years! How´s that feeling, sucker!! HAAHHAHAHA!! xD"

j/k

 

[Cissy]

I say just keep on the look-out for now.

 

[Deleted member 36435]

I think you should remember if your father was unfair at you. Now you have a way to pay pack. Tell your mother and remember to tell me her reaction/s.

It is against law to not tell her actually. Though if your dad was only drooling at those women, it isnt illegal. Do you know if he has actually cheated?(had sex with another woman)

Remember that he is a man after all. He can drool at young women, its totally okay imo. He hasnt done anything concrete yet, right? You get that old(61 years)and see how its to be man with probably pretty silent sex life.

Let him have some fun. Maybe he was just going to fap at that picture and maybe just wanna have fun chatting with younger women.. I assume your mother is about 60 too? They arent too attractive anymore, so in a way I understand.

You need to keep your mouth shut when you have nothing helpful to say, especially when the advice you are giving is shitty as anything.


Now, onto the subject.
The best thing is to either
a) Let it blow over, and just tell him you know, and to advise him to stop.
b) Tell your mom due to the dangers he has brought upon her, STDs and other shit. He could have been doing this for several years.


Also, don't make him an email.


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[Yannis]

You need to keep your mouth shut when you have nothing helpful to say, especially when the advice you are giving is shitty as anything.

That one is pretty offending opinion.

 

[Bukkake Sensei]

Tell your mom everything.

The reason you're so uncertain about what to do is because you're a fucking kid; put the situation into the hands of a responsible adult and walk away. This is her drama and her decision, not yours.

 

[Annoyance]

My dad did/does the same thing.
I'm not exactly sure if he's still up to his antics but he's went on dating sites before. I know he still looks at porn...but meh.
But at this time all you can do is tell your mom.

.-. Only reason I haven't told my mother is because I'm not sure dad even does it anymore due to the fact that he knows I know. You could bust him if you're evil and possibly want to black mail your own father or something stupid like that. :< But that's stupid and would need a lot more thought. I suggest just telling your mom.

 

[Danica Syer]

I would say tell your mom? Why hide it from her? She needs to know and she bound to find out at any rate. Sorry to hear that's happening by the way...

 

[violent_anger]

Ever considered he was planning to have a threesome with the chick from the dating site and your mom?

 

[Vandread]

Tell your mom everything.

The reason you're so uncertain about what to do is because you're a fucking kid; put the situation into the hands of a responsible adult and walk away. This is her drama and her decision, not yours.

As much drama as that may make, it would probably be a good idea.

By the way, this aside, how are things between your parents and you and any siblings? Any arguing or anything that would smudge the image of a happy family?

Also, shut the fuck up Yannis.

 

[Lnds500]

if he has actually cheated already,i think you should talk to your him first.i know this is gonna be a really unpleasant conversation but it needs to be done.
1)you must warn him not to do it again otherwise you are going to tell your mom (if he doesn't show some remorse and continues with that)
2)if he continues with it,go tell your mom.the only way she can handle this is to "have a little chat" with him,find out what's wrong in their relationship etc.she may decide to forgive him after all.
3) [i hope it will never come to this] if he still continues,even after their "little chat" thing,the only solution is the divorce

i'm terribly sorry about your situation!!please,keep us updated...

 

[Vandread]

if he has actually cheated already,i think you should talk to your him first.i know this is gonna be a really unpleasant conversation but it needs to be done.

By doing that, he may just cover his tracks better and continue to do what he's doing.

 

[Rabello]

3) [i hope it will never come to this] if he still continues,even after their "little chat" thing,the only solution is the divorce

I was ok with these things until I saw this. First of all, you don't know the whole situation. They might have a agreement that they both follow, but just don't want to tell their kids "Hey, we like to fuck around!" or this might be a payback for something the mother did with some other dude/girl.
My point is that you don't know the whole story, and saying the only solution is divorce is too harsh.

 

[Lnds500]

I was ok with these things until I saw this. First of all, you don't know the whole situation. They might have a agreement that they both follow, but just don't want to tell their kids "Hey, we like to fuck around!" or this might be a payback for something the mother did with some other dude/girl.
My point is that you don't know the whole story, and saying the only solution is divorce is too harsh.

we were asked a question and given some info so we could answer.from the info given,that's my opinion.
i don't force him to do that,i'm just giving suggestions.

 

[E.J.]

Keep watch on him. When hes on the computer, thats a good time to spy. If anything gets serious,tell your mom.

 

[The King]

I say Confront him. Jus To see wuts goin on.
Its not good to keep it in or wait to see whats happening cuz it could end bad anyway.
Just approach him as a caring son. Not as a probing, investigator type thing. see why he feels the need to do these things. is ur parents relationship really so bad and u dont know about it.
*MY THOUGHTS*
*MY OPINION*

 

[Lycanthrope]

Recently I found out my father has been unfaithful to my mom. First he used my computer and go on dating websites to find "hot young singles." Not only is my dad SIXTYONE years old, his preferences were uner 30 years old. Second, I caught him trying to print out a picture of a woman he was going to meet. I later printed out that picture and hid it for safe keeping (mainly to show my friend). Now it's so obvious, he wanted me to create an e-mail for him, I can only expect he wants to create an account on the dating website.

I've always hated him for other things, but now I lost all respect for him.I feel like I need to get the hell away from him as soon as possible and never talk to that sick pervert again. I'm not sure if my mom has a clue about his infidelity(although we know he has hep. B), so I don't know what I should do. What do you guys think?

Shit dude, I know how you feel. My dad had an affair as well. In fact he was, until his sorry ass is currently being fucked in jail. There's a load of shit behind that though, but this is about you.

Tell your mom everything.

IMO, best thing to do. I waited until after my father was in jail to tell my mom, but really, I regret every moment I had to tell her that something was going on in his pants, and it certainly didn't pertain to her whatsoever.

And trust me, there were many moments where my brothers weren't around my mother that I could've told her, and this being within a 3 month span of when i found out to when I told her.