Yeah. My dad's out of work right now. He claims he's getting a job, but I highly doubt it. I might even have to leave my school, which I love, because my dad isn't working.
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Well, he could have had this affair for a long time when they were still having sex.
It'd still be wise to tell her.
It'd still be wise to tell her.
Hmm...
Really sad story.
I cant feel what you do feel.
My family, especially my dad, has supported me always.
Really sad story.
I cant feel what you do feel.
My family, especially my dad, has supported me always.
As hard as it is for you, your mother needs to know about the affair.
Your father knows for a fact you know about his affair? If so, confront him with it and demand him to speak up to your mother/his wife. If he denies it, doesnt "feel" like telling her, then you tell her.
Thing is, this is a hard situation. Best way would be your father telling it himself. Nothing is worse than telling things that are not 100% your business (it is your business, dont get me wrong, but youre not the one involved, thus its not fully your business) and are the task of someone else really.
However, when thats not an option cuz your dad is too much of a loser, then comes the other horrible scenario.
Your mother blaming you for knowing something and not telling her. Thus my advice to confront her yourself if he doesnt. When youre alone with her, tell her that you want to talk about something very important and want to talk about it whenever she's ready for it.
When she's busy with other things on her mind, she will not be interested in talking about these kind of stuff. Stress and heavy subject are not a good combo. So make sure she's able to handle it.
Now you say you're kind of afraid to tell her. Thing is, there's a really big chance she already knows it (subconsciously maybe even) or feels there's something fishy about him not being around all the time or whatever.
This makes it easier for you, because that means all you do is confirm her worst nightmare. You're not confronting her with one, you're confirming one. She already knows the nightmare, now she just needs to make sure it's there.
Ok, so I gave you a few scenarios and I hope this helps.
No need to be afraid is all I can tell you, as your mother needs to know about this either way. From your father if possible, otherwise from you.
Your father knows for a fact you know about his affair? If so, confront him with it and demand him to speak up to your mother/his wife. If he denies it, doesnt "feel" like telling her, then you tell her.
Thing is, this is a hard situation. Best way would be your father telling it himself. Nothing is worse than telling things that are not 100% your business (it is your business, dont get me wrong, but youre not the one involved, thus its not fully your business) and are the task of someone else really.
However, when thats not an option cuz your dad is too much of a loser, then comes the other horrible scenario.
Your mother blaming you for knowing something and not telling her. Thus my advice to confront her yourself if he doesnt. When youre alone with her, tell her that you want to talk about something very important and want to talk about it whenever she's ready for it.
When she's busy with other things on her mind, she will not be interested in talking about these kind of stuff. Stress and heavy subject are not a good combo. So make sure she's able to handle it.
Now you say you're kind of afraid to tell her. Thing is, there's a really big chance she already knows it (subconsciously maybe even) or feels there's something fishy about him not being around all the time or whatever.
This makes it easier for you, because that means all you do is confirm her worst nightmare. You're not confronting her with one, you're confirming one. She already knows the nightmare, now she just needs to make sure it's there.
Ok, so I gave you a few scenarios and I hope this helps.
No need to be afraid is all I can tell you, as your mother needs to know about this either way. From your father if possible, otherwise from you.
I just tried to tell her, but I just still can't do it. I generally DON'T freeze up like this, but its been happening in almost every aspect of my life where I just freeze up when I wanna do something.
Wow some dad he is and today's Father's Day. I can see your hesitant to tell your mom and I understand that but that's a real tough situation there man. I suggest you to tell your mom that he is having an affair.
Yea, I don't blame you either. My moms friend wasn't quite so screwed up, she did a lot of drugs but she still tried as a parent. That's why they can forgive her. But the point is before I started rambling about that is, I think if you really don't want to live with him, you don't have to.
I know I don't want to live with him. I don't even want to look at him. That's why I'm glad he's a few hundred miles away right now.
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Sorry, I would suggest telling her. Sorry about the divorce, hope things can get better for you.
That's a terrible situation for you, but I hope you and your mother get through it. All that I could say, though, is what was already said in the quoted post. I understand how hard it is to tell her, all I could really suggest is maybe writing her a letter? That might be a little impersonal, but I always find it's a lot easier to express yourself with written words.
I know I should tell my mom, but I can't. Writing a letter would be a good idea though...
Make sure when this happens, you tell your father first so he knows he's screwed.
and i though my dad sucked..... sorry to hear bout that, nothing i can do though....
dude... i'm sorry.
you should tell your mom about the affair though. if anything, it'll help you get away from him faster.
you should tell your mom about the affair though. if anything, it'll help you get away from him faster.
She's at work right now. I'm gonna tell her tonight, when my little brothers are asleep.
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Don't be worried about being switched from parent to parent. Your dad has a serious drug problem and any judge would be crazy to give him custody of his kids.
He might get visitation rights, though. ._.
He might get visitation rights, though. ._.
I don't even want him to f***ing visit me. I hate him more than anyone or anything else in my life. Like, I'm not a hateful person usually, and it takes alot to put me over the edge, and he managed to do it.
When I was going to tell my mom, she was tired, and my 6 year old brother was having bad dreams, so yeah, I guess I have to wait till tomorrow night.
When I was going to tell my mom, she was tired, and my 6 year old brother was having bad dreams, so yeah, I guess I have to wait till tomorrow night.
Why are people so quick to say "tell your mother?" People react to things in different ways and certain things, like devastating secrets, can cause conflict and arguments that should best be avoided especially in the presence if young children. There's a time and place for everything. Just be 100% sure that it's the right time before you tell her.
Man, I'm so sorry.
I mean, I know people always say "Sorry" in cases like this, but sometimes it's just needed. Hopefully you can spend some more time with your mom after they get a divorced. It sounds like you need to be as far away from your father as possible.
I mean, I know people always say "Sorry" in cases like this, but sometimes it's just needed. Hopefully you can spend some more time with your mom after they get a divorced. It sounds like you need to be as far away from your father as possible.
Gee, you think?
Yeah. He's still a few hundred miles away. So even though I think I might have a sprained wrist, I'm very happy.
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