It's just really the KH2 Version of Roxas ticked me off when i was younger because i didn't care about him then as i hadn't played Chain Of Memories at the point. and i was all like who the diddly is this and where the hell is Sora.
And after Kingdom Hearts 358 by 2 days came out my opinions of Roxas has changed a lot. as i do feel more sorry for him then i did when i originally played KHII
Ah, now I understand clearly, that issue is it. Yeah,
I remember that one, for a long time there was even a huge rift/partly " fandom war" between rabid Sora fans and rabid Roxas fans, as there were just as many people who loathed that Roxas had to go and be replaced with Sora as there were people who wanted Sora back.
It got even so worse in some cases people started to blame Sora for Roxas' "disappearance" when in fact out of all main characters besides Kairi Sora is the one who is the least at fault for Roxas' fate and if he would have had a chance to have his opinion heard...well, DDD shows us how Sora thinks about the issue.
When you give reasoning like this it is actually much more informative and reasonable than bashing the character by speaking about "constant whining".
With that it's actually easier to understand your point.