- Joined
- Jun 14, 2004
- Messages
- 3,098
- Awards
- 5
Read this article, and then we'll talk:
'Sugarbabe' favors negotiated infidelity - CNN.com
This is an issue that's been at the forefront of my mind for a couple of weeks now. After stumbling upon this article earlier today, I decided that I wanted to hear a few more opinions on the subject, so let's discuss it.
Do you agree with the overall premise of the article? What do you think of swinger relationships where outside sex is permitted? Have you ever been in such a relationship, and if so, did it work out for you? If not, would you be willing to participate in one?
I don't know. I really don't know. Maybe it's an inconvenient combination of insecurity, jealousy and territorialism, maybe it's the result of two decades of Judeo-Christian cultural and moral conditioning, maybe it's nonsensical, primitive alpha-male instincts that I can't seem to abandon -- I just know that I could not handle infidelity in a relationship, negotiated or otherwise. Regardless of how objectively I want to look at this, my girl is my girl, and so long as that social contract persists, there are certain parts of ourselves that we simply do not share with anybody else. It seems to me that when we start sleeping with other people, we dissolve into something indistinguishable from glorified fcukbuddies. That's not the kind of relationship that I've ever wanted to be a part of, nor one that I think the average couple is capable of sustaining in the long term. But I'm curious to see how other people feel about it, and doing my best to keep an open mind.
'Sugarbabe' favors negotiated infidelity - CNN.com
This is an issue that's been at the forefront of my mind for a couple of weeks now. After stumbling upon this article earlier today, I decided that I wanted to hear a few more opinions on the subject, so let's discuss it.
Do you agree with the overall premise of the article? What do you think of swinger relationships where outside sex is permitted? Have you ever been in such a relationship, and if so, did it work out for you? If not, would you be willing to participate in one?
I don't know. I really don't know. Maybe it's an inconvenient combination of insecurity, jealousy and territorialism, maybe it's the result of two decades of Judeo-Christian cultural and moral conditioning, maybe it's nonsensical, primitive alpha-male instincts that I can't seem to abandon -- I just know that I could not handle infidelity in a relationship, negotiated or otherwise. Regardless of how objectively I want to look at this, my girl is my girl, and so long as that social contract persists, there are certain parts of ourselves that we simply do not share with anybody else. It seems to me that when we start sleeping with other people, we dissolve into something indistinguishable from glorified fcukbuddies. That's not the kind of relationship that I've ever wanted to be a part of, nor one that I think the average couple is capable of sustaining in the long term. But I'm curious to see how other people feel about it, and doing my best to keep an open mind.