Here's my take on this issue:
Some male gamers seem to think that they're entitled to having sexually objectified women in their games. Others refuse to even play as female characters unless they're attractive, or play as them at all simply because they're female. This is actually a problem. And yes, it's sexism. Dragon Age was called a "SJW game" because the female characters weren't hot and this was seen by some people as an attack on male gamers (which is just ridiculous).
Whether they want to admit it or not, Anita Sarkeesian has actually made quite a few valid points in her videos. She has also said many questionable things, but it's ignorant to dismiss the former just because you find her annoying because of the latter. It's very unfortunate that due to her being so polarising a lot of actual bigots like to throw around words like "femi-nazi" and "SJW" in an attempt to discredit the other party and justify their own warped view of the world. Those people are just as extreme as those who think that absolutely everything is a problem. They're just on the opposite side of the spectrum.
The world is full of female gamers. If you're not one of them, put yourself in their shoes and imagine that most male characters were seen through a female gaze and their ability to arouse female gamers would be their most defining feature in many games. Imagine that most protagonists were of the female variety, and few of them wore anything revealing and they weren't necessarily good looking either because female gamers, who in this scenario would make up the majority of all gamers, don't care if they're good looking or not as long as they're well written characters. And then imagine plenty of female gamers would laugh at you for wanting more male characters with some personality and not just good looks and sexy armour. On top of that, imagine people thinking you were just posing and that you weren't a "real" gamer because gaming's for girls. And you would have to get used to receiving requests for dick pictures.
Gaming is not about the sexual needs of heterosexual men. It's not a men's club. It's supposed to be inclusive - a hobby for people from all walks of life.
But here is also where I strongly disagree with Sarkeesian and many other feminists. I'm not against sexual content in video games. The problem is not the content itself as much as it is the lack of equal representation. You just don't get nearly as many sexually objectified male characters in gaming. And I'm not counting make nudity as a comedic prop, or so-called "power fantasies". A ripped shirtless guy is not sexually objectified by default.
If you're okay with female nudity, you also need to be okay with the possibility of male nudity to the same degree. Otherwise you're really just a hypocrite. And I could be wrong, but from what I've seen so far most of the guys who champion for their rights to see polygon breasts either don't care about male nudity or they even think it shouldn't be in games because it doesn't cater to their needs (and this makes them part of the problem).
Look at Bravely Default. Agnes and Edea received some sexy costumes in Japan that were edited to be less revealing for the western version. This is the kind of stuff that people like to complain about. And so they did. But I don't ever recall seeing people complain that a very, very revealing outfit for Tiz (which was pure fan service for female gamers) got removed entirely! But I did see some people who saw it go "eeew, that's gay... don't want that in my game!". Again, that's just hypocrisy.
And then there's the inclusion of gay characters. If developers include them, they're just "pandering to SJW's". Because it's not possible that the people who make these games are open-minded and diverse themselves? If it's obvious and also mentioned that they're gay, you get the response "why did they have to announce it? it's not relevant to the plot! they're just pushing the gay agenda on us!". If the character just happens to be gay, like Bill from the Last of Us or Kung Jin from Mortal Kombat X and it's not literally spelled out many people will first say "no, he's not gay!" and make up some stupid excuse as to why he isn't even when it's implied by the game and you're supposed to come to that conclusion on your own (meaning, it has no bearing on the plot and is just a good portrayal of a person who happens to be gay). Then when it's confirmed by the developers that he's gay, and this was the case with both Bill and Kung Jin btw, people will accuse the developer of "pandering to SJW's" and argue that we never needed to know that they were gay.
In short, damned if you do and damned if you don't. Apparently, according to some people there should never be a gay character in a video game at all and there's no right way to include one. But we do need to have romance and love scenes between heterosexual couples all the time and that is never an issue even if when it's completely irrelevant to the plot. And then these people refuse to admit that they're bigots.
Seriously. More people need to realise that you're not playing as yourself in a video game. That you're not the main character. That the gender, sexual orientation or skin colour of the character you're playing as is irrelevant because s/he is not you. It should also not be relevant whether the character is attractive or not!
