Help/Support ► Sexual Orientation

[Tobuoi]

Well, first of all, from what you've said, I think that you should just take some time to yourself and try to really establish how you feel...compare your feelings towards girls to your feelings towards guys. It may seem a little blunt, but personally, I don't believe in "bisexualism"...at least, not in the way that it's refferred to, today.

Also, it's not completely uncommon for people of our general age to go through a sort of "phase"...

Just make sure that you surround yourself with people who will love and accept you, no matter what. For now, anyways...

 

[Little_Red]

I don't know what to think anymore. Yes I like girls, don't get me wrong, I mean, I'm trying to get one girl to date me right now, but, I'm having trouble with my sexual orientation, and don't be posting, "OMG HE'S GAY. EWWWWWW". This is a serious issue with mine, no one IRL knows yet, I don't know how they'll react. I was contemplating only telling a few of my close friends here on KHI. But, here I am, asking for your help, and please, only real help.

I really hope I don't lose any of my KHI friends over this.

Yes, I became inspired to make this thread on behalf of mendia's thread.

You have no idea how good it feels to get this off my chest.

if you like girls and guys, you're obviously bisexual. being a teenager, and a young adult is usually an "experimenting" time your life. you might be gay, you might be straight, but you'll figure out more over time. and there is NOTHING wrong with being gay, you can't help that you like guys in a sexual way. that is not shameful at all. and i know because i have friends that are bisexual, and friends that are gay too. just know that there is nothing morally wrong with you if you're like that.

 

[Tyler Durden]

alright Gear-

1- How old are you?
2- Dont double post
3-You may be bi, or you may be straight. We dont know yet. MOST people question their sexuality at LEAST once before they sort things out.

 

[Gear]

1 - I'm not answering that. The only people that know my real age are Monkey (If he remembers it) and Naomi (<3)
2 - I know. I've been here since December
3 - I know I'm bi, I'm just having trouble with it.

 

[The Jordan]

The age is important in this situation though. The two extremes would be something like
13 - you're just confused, it'll pass
21 - yep, you're bi, you've just been repressed for a while.

 

[Tyler Durden]

Gear, I ask questions for a reason.

As Ichi above me stated, the age makes a huge difference. YOU asked for help, YOU have to give someone the tools to do so.

But whatever.

 

[Thelonepickle]

^Well, don't ATTACK the kid about it. You don't HAVE to disclose that kind of information on the internet. It's smarter to keep it to yourself.

I've never been a homophobe. I've been persecuted because I'm NOT a homophobe, if that makes sense... XP When my oldest sister came out, she got made fun of, and I don't think my parents totally accept her. Kat and I hope that some day they will. We never really gave it a second thought, when we found out.

Just know that there are going to people who won't accept you and people who will. It'll be a huge deal to some, and it'll be absolutely nothing to others. They'll say you choose to be this way, and others will say you were born that way, and they'll think it's wrong or right either way, sometimes. Everyone has varied opinions.

I know that friends who can't accept (or at least be civil to) you don't seem like friends at all, but try to forgive your family, as long as they aren't too abusive.

I hope everything works out. At the very least, you can know that there ARE people in the world who don't think twice about this sort of thing. Good luck.

 

[Medicatedsoap]

I'm gay, so. I can share with you my experience with coming out.
It started when I was thirteen, and it was just sort of a thing like: 'Hey, if a boy asked me out, would I say yes?' and I thought, yes, I would, but I still would go out with a girl, preferably. I was constantly questioning myself if I really was bi. This was all before I really began looking at people sexually.
As I grew older, I had the same problem, but reversed. I began growing crushes on some guys in my school, and while I was sexually attracted to the male body, I seemed unresponsive to things straight guys would love (big boobs, etc.) Boobs, really, just disgusted me.
I just kept thinking about it, and the deciding thought was 'who am I sexually attracted to?' It wasn't like 'Well, this girl is really nice, I would go out with her!' Was I physically attracted to any girls? No.

Honestly, it's hard to get help from people without knowing all the details. You really just gotta figure this out for yourself. Having an open mind is the first step, and trust me, all teens go through this at some point. How you come out of it is a different story. Just don't let anyone tell you who you are, it's something YOU need to decide.

I personally could not imagine being attracted to both sexes, but I also can't imagine being attracted to a girls, so I really can't help you much more.

Let time decide. You will know in time.