I seem to always get myself stuck in this "I'm a nice guy and I treat you well so you end up using me." kind of situation. I don't know if it's because I can't seem to pick good girls or I'm just naive. This is probably the sixth time I've had feelings for a girl (not love but just general interest) that weren't sexual and had it blow up in my face like some kind of scene from Spy vs Spy.
I do a lot for people, which I sometimes think is my problem. I'm very open to forgiveness and I often try to help my friends when ever I can. 99% of the time I put other people before me, which seems to be a bad thing in this world.
I'll focus with the girl at hand, Andrea. I really liked her quite a lot. She was attractive, fun, and had interest in video games and anime. I don't mean the "Hey I play Harvest Moon!" kind of video game playing... I mean the "I just beat the shit out of Virgil in DMC3 on Super Hard." kind of girl. I liked that a lot, since common interests are the key to a good relationship right?
We go one a few dates, and a few dates in we reach second base. Not bad in my opinion but I felt that we really clicked. So I was happy. I drew her pretty pictures and she wrote me pretty notes. As we start to date more I bring up the "Boyfriend Girlfriend" thing and she is a bit hesitant. She doesn't want to rush into anything since she was with an older guy before and it failed bad.
A few weeks later, still kind of where it was before. Through us hanging out I got close to her best friend Jess. Not in a romantic way, just good friends, since I would help her with her boyfriend problems and we'd just talk about things. She brought up how she was happy that Andrea had me and that I was the only person she's been with that really cared for her. Which was true, sex was actually for once the last thing on my mind. Normally I'm like "OMG BOOBIES!" but I actually looked at her at an intimate level.
So it keeps going like this, we go on nice dates but nothing really happens. I try to talk to her and it goes no where. She changes the subject constantly or just ignores the questions. She ended up getting grounded and not allowed out. Seriously who gets grounded now a days? Blah... Over the next few days I get random texts that her parents weren't home and I visit her. It's about a twenty minute drive there and back, so it isn't cheap on the gas, but I liked her so I said "What the ****." One night I even snuck into her room and spent a majority of the night cuddled in bed with her watching Pan's Labyrinth, with the help of Blockbuster connections. She later tells me that she'd like to try a relationship when she's not grounded but it sounded kind of forced and just something she said to shut me up and stop me asking her.
So we talked about how bored she was while she was grounded and I buy her some anime. I'm not rolling in money but I had enough to pay for a DVD and let her borrow some of my own. I drive up one night, pick her up from work and give them to her. She's like wowed by it and says "You're to good to me." She tells me how she wants to get me a present in return since she feels bad she had nothing for me.
Bringing it up to speed with now, she's talking to me a bit less. I had a shitty day and sent her a text asking her to call me and talk to me so I'd feel a bit better, not worded like that but you get the point. Seven hours later I get a response "I'll call you tomorrow. Peace." and I was little pissed off... I then found out that she had gone out to hang out with my own friends (she's friends with them too) which made me wonder why the **** she didn't tell me so we could all hang out together.
Anyway, I came to the conclusion that it might just be pointless to continue trying a relationship wit her. I feel like she has no interest in me and that we both want different things. I'm not a fan of falling in love and having my heart broken, once was enough. So I'm not sure if I should give it a shot or just put in my cards and pull out. I feel like I'm being really nice to her and she's just walking on me.
So am I being to judgmental and negative? Or should I not really waste my time?
I do a lot for people, which I sometimes think is my problem. I'm very open to forgiveness and I often try to help my friends when ever I can. 99% of the time I put other people before me, which seems to be a bad thing in this world.
I'll focus with the girl at hand, Andrea. I really liked her quite a lot. She was attractive, fun, and had interest in video games and anime. I don't mean the "Hey I play Harvest Moon!" kind of video game playing... I mean the "I just beat the shit out of Virgil in DMC3 on Super Hard." kind of girl. I liked that a lot, since common interests are the key to a good relationship right?
We go one a few dates, and a few dates in we reach second base. Not bad in my opinion but I felt that we really clicked. So I was happy. I drew her pretty pictures and she wrote me pretty notes. As we start to date more I bring up the "Boyfriend Girlfriend" thing and she is a bit hesitant. She doesn't want to rush into anything since she was with an older guy before and it failed bad.
A few weeks later, still kind of where it was before. Through us hanging out I got close to her best friend Jess. Not in a romantic way, just good friends, since I would help her with her boyfriend problems and we'd just talk about things. She brought up how she was happy that Andrea had me and that I was the only person she's been with that really cared for her. Which was true, sex was actually for once the last thing on my mind. Normally I'm like "OMG BOOBIES!" but I actually looked at her at an intimate level.
So it keeps going like this, we go on nice dates but nothing really happens. I try to talk to her and it goes no where. She changes the subject constantly or just ignores the questions. She ended up getting grounded and not allowed out. Seriously who gets grounded now a days? Blah... Over the next few days I get random texts that her parents weren't home and I visit her. It's about a twenty minute drive there and back, so it isn't cheap on the gas, but I liked her so I said "What the ****." One night I even snuck into her room and spent a majority of the night cuddled in bed with her watching Pan's Labyrinth, with the help of Blockbuster connections. She later tells me that she'd like to try a relationship when she's not grounded but it sounded kind of forced and just something she said to shut me up and stop me asking her.
So we talked about how bored she was while she was grounded and I buy her some anime. I'm not rolling in money but I had enough to pay for a DVD and let her borrow some of my own. I drive up one night, pick her up from work and give them to her. She's like wowed by it and says "You're to good to me." She tells me how she wants to get me a present in return since she feels bad she had nothing for me.
Bringing it up to speed with now, she's talking to me a bit less. I had a shitty day and sent her a text asking her to call me and talk to me so I'd feel a bit better, not worded like that but you get the point. Seven hours later I get a response "I'll call you tomorrow. Peace." and I was little pissed off... I then found out that she had gone out to hang out with my own friends (she's friends with them too) which made me wonder why the **** she didn't tell me so we could all hang out together.
Anyway, I came to the conclusion that it might just be pointless to continue trying a relationship wit her. I feel like she has no interest in me and that we both want different things. I'm not a fan of falling in love and having my heart broken, once was enough. So I'm not sure if I should give it a shot or just put in my cards and pull out. I feel like I'm being really nice to her and she's just walking on me.
So am I being to judgmental and negative? Or should I not really waste my time?
