So, my mother is never one to tell me "no" when it comes to going out. I'm always responsible, I don't go to parties, I'm always with people, and generally I'm safe. She always says she doesn't understand parents who don't let their children go out and explore the world around them on their own.
Of course, she has always been there to drive me places and pick me up, but now our car is broken and the only viable option is for me to ride the bus.
The problem is that she won't let me. She says that my neighborhood is too dangerous and it isn't safe for me to ride the bus because all kinds of people ride them. She is right on both counts, but how am I supposed to get anywhere if I don't ride the bus? I commute 12 miles to my college and the only way I can get there and back now is the bus (or asking my friend for a ride to school, and taking the bus back home)
Also, I need to find a job so I can pay for my phone bill and buy school supplies, but because my mother won't let me go on the bus to find a job in the neighborhood, I can't search for a job. She told me I should ask my aunt or grandmother for help, but I don't want to do that because my aunt is mental and stuck in her own world and my grandmother doesn't have spare cash for things like $200 textbooks.
There is also my other aunt but I asked her for help earlier this year and she lied in my face that she couldn't so there is no way I'm going to ask her again. Her attempts at trying to help me by sending links to grants and scholarships doesn't help at all considering I don't qualify for any scholarships being a third year student and I'm currently in a tangle with Financial Aid so I can't even get my grant money.
One thing my mother has taught me is that I have to go out and do things myself and not rely on others, but she is pretty much asking me to do that. She always tells me I can go wherever I want, but she is petty much telling me I can't by telling me I can't take the bus.
What should I do? I start crying whenever I try to explain what she is doing by not letting me ride the bus, and all she tells me is I can go out but not here and where else can I go if I have no car?
Should I just ignore her and take the bus anyways? I don't want to start having problems with my mother because we really only have each other. I understand that the streets are dangerous, but it isn't like I'm going to ride the bus to Compton or Watts or any bad city in Los Angeles. I'm taking the bus to school and back, then down the street and back if I can get a job in a shopping center just three miles down.
Of course, she has always been there to drive me places and pick me up, but now our car is broken and the only viable option is for me to ride the bus.
The problem is that she won't let me. She says that my neighborhood is too dangerous and it isn't safe for me to ride the bus because all kinds of people ride them. She is right on both counts, but how am I supposed to get anywhere if I don't ride the bus? I commute 12 miles to my college and the only way I can get there and back now is the bus (or asking my friend for a ride to school, and taking the bus back home)
Also, I need to find a job so I can pay for my phone bill and buy school supplies, but because my mother won't let me go on the bus to find a job in the neighborhood, I can't search for a job. She told me I should ask my aunt or grandmother for help, but I don't want to do that because my aunt is mental and stuck in her own world and my grandmother doesn't have spare cash for things like $200 textbooks.
There is also my other aunt but I asked her for help earlier this year and she lied in my face that she couldn't so there is no way I'm going to ask her again. Her attempts at trying to help me by sending links to grants and scholarships doesn't help at all considering I don't qualify for any scholarships being a third year student and I'm currently in a tangle with Financial Aid so I can't even get my grant money.
One thing my mother has taught me is that I have to go out and do things myself and not rely on others, but she is pretty much asking me to do that. She always tells me I can go wherever I want, but she is petty much telling me I can't by telling me I can't take the bus.
What should I do? I start crying whenever I try to explain what she is doing by not letting me ride the bus, and all she tells me is I can go out but not here and where else can I go if I have no car?
Should I just ignore her and take the bus anyways? I don't want to start having problems with my mother because we really only have each other. I understand that the streets are dangerous, but it isn't like I'm going to ride the bus to Compton or Watts or any bad city in Los Angeles. I'm taking the bus to school and back, then down the street and back if I can get a job in a shopping center just three miles down.
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