If a child is concerned for his own well being after a divorce its not being selfish. The parents need to consider what will happen to their children as a result of the divorce. the fact that children are often ignored in the divorce process really pisses me off. its just a matter of who gets custody, which is very ofter based on nothing except a law preference usually favoring the mother. even if the father would be a better parent. He should be concerned. his parents are a part of him. what happens to them will affect him (and I would know) Its not selfish by any means.
There's a difference between being concerned about his own well-being after a divorce, and wanting to keep his parents together for his own selfish reasons.
And sorry, but it's looking more like he wants to keep them together for his own reasons, and not because he thinks they'd be happier together than apart.
Also, the law is becoming more and more favorable towards the father nowadays. My sister had a baby with some guy. She tried to get him involved, tried to get him to care about the child (who's now five), and tried to get them to interact with each other. But the father wouldn't have it. He's seen his kid maybe twice in five years. My sister had to fight for child support and won that after three years. Forget back child support.
Now, five years later, he's trying to fight for the right to have his name be put on the birth certificate and to have her name legally changed to his. And he's winning, even though he's had nothing to do with her for five years. The only reason he wants it is to get insurance benefits and tax breaks. He still doesn't want anything to do with her.
So, the law is becoming more favorable towards the father.
But that's not the point in this discussion, since the boy is old enough now to either choose which to live with, or to alternate between the two.
Also, there's every chance that they won't get divorced, since it seems like the mother doesn't really want to divorce him.