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[Get Out Alive ♫]

Sorry, guys, I'm having trouble with life and I need your opinion, help, advice, etc.



Okay, well my mom mostly picks on my personality and looks. I can't stand it. I always apparently have my bangs in my face and she yells at me. She'll always poke my face and mess with it. I'll tell her to leave me alone, and her response most of the time is like, "I don't want you looking like a thug!" I don't care because I don't care what people think. If they know me they know I don't act like that, and for the people who don't, screw them, I don't care! I get all A's and like one B. I follow rules and I'm not a bad kid. My personality is a problem, too. When I go places with my family, I don't talk. She gets mad and will be like, talk, participate, etc, etc! I'm sort of anti-social. Plus, I always think deeply besides talk. And she thinks I space out. My parents do a lot for me, but they don't understand. If I'm not like one of them, I'm mistaken, or wrong. I listen to my iPod near family, and my mom is like, "Stop listening to it, and join the conversation!" I love listening to Three Days Grace, I can relate. It's not my fault I don't like socializing. I hate it and can't stand it. I hate home, and I just want to be alone. I'm a jerk to my family, but not on purpose. I'm always happy at school because I feel free and can express how I truly feel. It's hard at home. And half the stuff I don't say there because I disagree, and once again will get yelled at for difference in opinion. (Like I'm a non-believer and they're are Huge Christians.) Obviously I can't be. I just wish I could go someone where else where people understand without yelling. Yesterday I got screamed at at like 1:00 A.M. Then, till 3:45 A.M I stopped crying. I feel worthless, not needed, and mistaken. I'm usually happy, too.


Do you think I'm overreacting, or what? I hope not, but I need advice, thanks.

 

[Mistearea]

Holy Hell, is there a time warp?! You're exactly the same way that I was at your age. And I hate to tell ya, but there's not a "place" where that sort of thing is accepted. Most you can do is find someone who's into the same stuff you are. It'll be hard, yes but it'll also be worth it. When I was your age and just like you, by the time I had turned fourteen I had already tried to commit suicide multiple times and been admited to a mental hospital. Thing's aren't gonna be good if you don't find a friend that could care less about things the same way you do.

I should know because my grandma was the same way about everything, except the whole IPond deal. We were too poor for those. But I stick by findin' a friend like you. Once you two connect, there's nothin' that would ever bother you or annoy you again, unless it's from the other dude. Well that's who things went for me once I was in high school and now that I've graduated, dude is still like my little brother, despite bein' older by one day.

Until then, just relax and sink into your hobbies because it'll happen when you least expect it. Happened for me when I went to a class the first time and dude noticed some of my manga that I always read.

 

[Reika Noko]

First of all, don't type in black color, especially for those that use Blaqv2.

Okay, back to the point overall. You have problems with your looks because you put your bangs infront of your face thereby looking like a emothug, in your mom's opinion, you don't care what other people think even if they call you a loser since you get good grades anyway, your pretty much a loner...

I'm too lazy to make out the rest but anyway, let me get this straight. Overall, you love school despite bullying yet you hate your family and you have issues with them. You're pretty much complainingsaying that you see your life as patheticcrappy. And you consulted to a random forum...?

 

[Mistearea]

You've got to think, Reika. A random forum is one of the best places because there you will get the most unbiased opinions possible. And then there's the sheer number of active members that could possible help out, giving that many different opinions.

 

[Reika Noko]

Don't people just blog about those things though? I mean, the Help and Support sec is here and a lot of people help one another, but this guy is practically bitching about how he can't stand up to his mom. His mom. And I know you, umazak. I know that you laughed at your mom that time she almost got killed. Or at least, I bet that you were almost happy until she got a close call.

Usually, here, it was supposed to be some conflict that interferes a once smooth going relationship which has been going rock bottom all of a sudden after just turning around. But this guy...he's just not facing a trivial matter that could be easily solved with some dignity left if he would just tell his mom to shut up.

 

[Firo]

Try and tell them how you feel just say "Hey I don't like this or that" They'll understand and work with you. Try and socialize a little yeah you're a deep thinker so am I just find someone you can share your thoughts with. Trust me bud theres alot of people who feel like you, so theres someone you can talk to.

You don't care what people think, it sounds as though you don't care in general . Why not try and change a few things and I bet the outcome will be good for you. You get good grades, thats great why not share that success with someone? Don't feel so pessimistic. Try and look at things different, not everything is as cut and dry as it seems man just hold your head up and at least attempt some small changes it'll be good for you.

And if you wanna have someone to talk to or share your deep thoughts pm me it'll be nice to talk to someone who I can share thoughts with. Theres my invitation feel free to make use of it.

 

[impart]

its normal, just stay with friends

age 12-14= anti social

 

[Weeaboo]

This is what happens when your mother begins to think she is losing you. She thinks that if she doesn't change you now, she may lose you in the future. But what she doesn't understand is that by doing this, she is feeding the fire to losing you.

Every mother goes through this, "I'm going to lose my child!" stage and try to stop it. when in actuality, they are mostly contributing to the fact they will lose you eventually.

So, for the most part, she is treating you like a child and isn't getting it that you're your own person and can make your own decisions. Now, I'm not saying your mom is stupid, it's just the way she is taking you is what's wrong with her. She thinks she will lose you, well she will. She needs to learn to just let you go your own way.

 

[Johnny Stooge]

Get a haircut, stop listening to Three Days Grace (it's not deep, it's childish) and try to be a more pleasant person.

I can see you're 12, but if you want to be treated the way you want, you need to grow up.

 

[Leonard]

Maybe it would help your case to see it from another perspective.

This is all not just about yourself, you need to see it in a less selfish "fuck that it's my life" kind of way. Take a look at the situation from her point of view, she might be worried just the way the lady with the blue text two posts above me described it. And from the things you posted about your family and particularly your mother, it is obvious that they love you.

Maybe if you can show her that you're willing to change and compromise on a few things, then your "relationship" would work a lot better. This really isn't such a completely one-sided thing as you described it in your first post.

In if nothing helps at all, seek some professional help in form of a (school-)counselor for example. They're probably able to offer you better advice than anyone else here.

Okay, back to the point overall. You have problems with your looks because you put your bangs infront of your face thereby looking like a emothug, in your mom's opinion, you don't care what other people think even if they call you a loser since you get good grades anyway, your pretty much a loner...

I'm too lazy to make out the rest but anyway, let me get this straight. Overall, you love school despite bullying yet you hate your family and you have issues with them. You're pretty much complainingsaying that you see your life as patheticcrappy. And you consulted to a random forum...?

First of all, shut up.

Secondly, quit overusing strike tags and trying to be funny by using sarcastic semi-witty comments.

Third, quit insulting him for things he never stated.

In case you can't read, this is the Help & Support section precisely for Help & Support as the name suggests. Unless the thread op acts like a complete and obvious retard/troll, people should either post here in order to help or just shut the hell up. I believe you belong into the latter category.

 

[metalyoshi9]

I don't think I can offer better advice than what's been said by those that actually meant to say something useful, but here's to trying anyhow.

Making a good friend is something you really should try to do. Even if it's someone online, or whatever. Just talk to someone, like you did here (which is good for you, really. )

And I definitely agree with blue text up there^.
It's a mom thing. My mom won't stop nagging me that I'm down to the last year and a half or so in the house. It drives her crazy, and she wants me to be with her and my dad all the time too.
Maybe take her up on the offer every once in a while, but don't stop doing what you love, regardless if that's listening to music, or online, or whatever you do. You need your own time too.

Mostly, try to find a balance in your life.
I know that's all easier said then done, but we're here if you need anything. =]
And on that note, don't listen to Reika Noko. I don't know what her problem is, but don't mind her. >_>

Cheers, and best of luck. =]

 

[Z.e.X.i.O.n]

You should try finding someone who has alot in common with you.
By befriending him/her, you'llhave a better life cause whenever your mom shouts at you, you have your friend to cheer you up and all..

But that's just my opinion.. I hope you get better.

 

[Alex Espitia]

You and your mom have a problem. Your mom is losing you and she doesnt want you to leave her. Shes trying to keep you from being an emo but shes being annoying at the same time. You are in addelesance and dont give a damn about your parents feelings. But you know what, they have feelings and you shouldnt be hurtin them. (Example: Would you like to be a parent and have your kid walk up to you and say "I hate you" right in your face.) Thats what shes feelin right now. Only one of you needs to get your problem fixed and everybody will be happy.

 

[Noir]

its normal, just stay with friends

age 12-14= anti social

It is so freakin' true.
Into high school first few years, I tend to be quiet.
Hit 15. I'm fucking wasted on beer and at parties.

... we are talking about social life.. right? :E

 

[Weeaboo]

It is so freakin' true.
Into high school first few years, I tend to be quiet.
Hit 15. I'm fucking wasted on beer and at parties.

... we are talking about social life.. right? :E

No we're more talking about his life really.

 

[Get Out Alive ♫]

Umm, thanks guys, and by the way, I'm a girl. >XD

I know there's always a two-sided story, but I just want to be left alone. I want to live my own life, besides her saying that I'm her child. I know that, but I have a life too. I'm not emo either as far as suicidal.

I don't face my mom because she always yells at me, and will hit me. I hate that, and every time I try to talk I stutter and it's hard to explain myself.

Lol, excuse my for listening to Three Days Grace, it actually helps. I have a friend, several, she's pretty good. We don't talk much out of school, but I should contact her soon. Sorry about using the black, too. XD

 

[Leonard]

I don't face my mom because she always yells at me, and will hit me.

Only more reason to consult a professional on this. Seriously.

 

[Get Out Alive ♫]

Only more reason to consult a professional on this. Seriously.

Ehehe, well she starts to throw things and tosses them in every direction. And if she gets really mad, I get pushed to the ground and slapped in the face or like knocked in the head.

I just hope I'm not overreacting. >_>'''''''

 

[violent_anger]

you probably had it coming, stop being a snob.

 

[Get Out Alive ♫]

I'm not trying to be a snob. I'm just sick of people picking at me and telling me how to life my life. I don't want to be selfish, and can't help but to be careless.

I said before that I thought I've been a jerk. But it's not about that, it's about realizing that people are different and everyone lives differently. My mom can't realize that not everyone is talkative, or like her and the rest of my family. Excuse me, just wanted some opinions.