I feel really stupid doing this, but I would like some outside perspective on this topic. Basically what happened was I recently realized I have feelings for a really close friend of mine. I've been losing sleep over this and I've been thinking about her constantly. It kind of makes me feel stupid. Anyways, I want to know if you think I should tell her or just let it go and try to move on. We're real good friends and I don't want to mess up our friendship.
I feel really uncomfortable talking about this with people I don't really know.
Okay oh god no I know exactly how you feel about this.
For a long time in my friendship to my friend Nik, I have went from a crush to just, complete stupid feelings for him and I could not shake them at all even though I knew for a fact he wouldn't even be good for me anyways.
ANYWHO. He knew. He knew the entire time and since we were so close and dependent on the other, we tried not to make a big fuss about it. We fought a lot, I cried a lot, ruined myself over him. There were a couple nights of me just bawling my eyes out to him because of how much I hated myself, how much I loved him, and of course, all he could really say was "I know, Sabrina, I know." and comfort me. I was too important to him to get rid of like that. We couldn't let it ruin us, and eventually, I did get past it, I got over him, and I'm in an amazing relationship with my boyfriend now. Nik and I are still very close and supportive of each other. He's in a great relationship now, too.
I don't think you should let her go, but maybe lay it on the table. Even though Nik knew, I confessed to him and it made things a lot easier on me. On us, as friends, too.
If she cares about you, she won't leave over that, but it could get awkward sometimes. It's a very tough situation. Are you prepared for her to not like you back like that? Like are you content with just being close friends? Or lose her completely?
I'm sorry for ranting about myself, but I just want to show how painful it is, how hard it is, but that it is possible to be just friends if you really do care about that person. Nik is like a brother to me and it's strange saying that, sure, but I was way too stubborn to lose him.