alright, there's this girl at my school named kait. she's really different, she doesn't have many friends (or friends she can trust), she's socially awkward, she's a little big, she's not very good looking, and she has many problems. she's very depressed because some people make fun of her. one of her main problems is that she doesn't stand up for herself. she hates seeing others in pain or get abused so she takes all of this and puts it on herself. even tho she is depressed, she acts like she's in a good mood.
so why does this affect me? well recently she's been getting a little attached to me because i'm one of the few kids in my grade that is actually nice to her. it's not like i'm just nice to her, i'm nice to everyone in my school which is why a lot of people like me (not trying to brag or anything, that's just how it is). she liked me for a little while, but i did not like her back (go figure). some of my friends are assholes, and people would laugh how she liked me. i would get teased about it, but there was nothing i could do about it, so it didn't bother me. however, i really did bother her. she's really used to this kind of stuff, which is kinda sad. later, i had to explain that i didn't like her but i would be her friend. i'm her friend in school, but it's not like i would call her up on the weekend to do something.
recently, she's been more depressed than usual. she gets teased at and talked about behind her back, and then (this is where the story gets a little out of hand) she tried to hang herself in the bathroom in the girl's locker room. she was found so ppl were there to keep her from committing suicide. she didn't think anyone was going to find out about because only one person knew, but it got around quite fast.
tonight, i tried to ask her about it because at this point it seemed to be a rumor. but yes, it really happened. she was really embarrassed about it and she was sad to find out that people were starting to find out about it. i gave her a big talk, saying how she needs to finish off high school so she doesn't have to deal with these people at my school, how life will be better later, that she will make a difference on people's lives (she wants to help ppl with special needs), and people would be devastated if she killed herself. i try to convince her, but she's always so negative about this kind of stuff. i tried to tell her that she needs to change and not let people get away with making fun of her and she to stop putting the blame on herself, but she won't listen because she doesn't like seeing other people hurt.
i imagine that she's going through a very tough couple of years, and i feel terrible. my first question is, how can i help her out and such? any suggestions?
next brings up my second question. i really hope she doesn't kill herself because that would be terrible and i would feel bad. i want her to go on, but it's hard because she's putting me in a place where it's just me trying to help her. she doesn't want anyone else to know so it seems like i'm the only one who can calm down and prevent this from happening. i don't know this girl a whole lot, so it's hard for me to switch gears and start focusing on this girl. i really wish there were others that could help me out and possibly help her out, so i could get away from all of this. so pretty much, i want her to be in a state where she doesn't need my help anymore. so how can i do this? i don't mean to be bogus, but i don't want all of this on top of my shoulders.
i think i'll keep trying to help her out, but i hope that she'll either come to a state where she feels better about herself or she has the help of people who will always be there for her. i really don't want to make a commitment to this girl, but i feel that i need to for a little bit or else something bad will happen.
argh, this is really stressful, is this really how i'm going to spend my last year in high school? any help would be really appreciated.
so why does this affect me? well recently she's been getting a little attached to me because i'm one of the few kids in my grade that is actually nice to her. it's not like i'm just nice to her, i'm nice to everyone in my school which is why a lot of people like me (not trying to brag or anything, that's just how it is). she liked me for a little while, but i did not like her back (go figure). some of my friends are assholes, and people would laugh how she liked me. i would get teased about it, but there was nothing i could do about it, so it didn't bother me. however, i really did bother her. she's really used to this kind of stuff, which is kinda sad. later, i had to explain that i didn't like her but i would be her friend. i'm her friend in school, but it's not like i would call her up on the weekend to do something.
recently, she's been more depressed than usual. she gets teased at and talked about behind her back, and then (this is where the story gets a little out of hand) she tried to hang herself in the bathroom in the girl's locker room. she was found so ppl were there to keep her from committing suicide. she didn't think anyone was going to find out about because only one person knew, but it got around quite fast.
tonight, i tried to ask her about it because at this point it seemed to be a rumor. but yes, it really happened. she was really embarrassed about it and she was sad to find out that people were starting to find out about it. i gave her a big talk, saying how she needs to finish off high school so she doesn't have to deal with these people at my school, how life will be better later, that she will make a difference on people's lives (she wants to help ppl with special needs), and people would be devastated if she killed herself. i try to convince her, but she's always so negative about this kind of stuff. i tried to tell her that she needs to change and not let people get away with making fun of her and she to stop putting the blame on herself, but she won't listen because she doesn't like seeing other people hurt.
i imagine that she's going through a very tough couple of years, and i feel terrible. my first question is, how can i help her out and such? any suggestions?
next brings up my second question. i really hope she doesn't kill herself because that would be terrible and i would feel bad. i want her to go on, but it's hard because she's putting me in a place where it's just me trying to help her. she doesn't want anyone else to know so it seems like i'm the only one who can calm down and prevent this from happening. i don't know this girl a whole lot, so it's hard for me to switch gears and start focusing on this girl. i really wish there were others that could help me out and possibly help her out, so i could get away from all of this. so pretty much, i want her to be in a state where she doesn't need my help anymore. so how can i do this? i don't mean to be bogus, but i don't want all of this on top of my shoulders.
i think i'll keep trying to help her out, but i hope that she'll either come to a state where she feels better about herself or she has the help of people who will always be there for her. i really don't want to make a commitment to this girl, but i feel that i need to for a little bit or else something bad will happen.
argh, this is really stressful, is this really how i'm going to spend my last year in high school? any help would be really appreciated.