Help/Support ► I give up ...again....

[dr.korytco]

I've never been good with women, and I'm am socially distant to them. One is showing signs of liking me, and I have to go through missing out on her again because I don't know how to act even if someone tells me how to.

I'm an artist , but it feels like everyone mocks me , once again. My work as a designer improved significantly in 2-D, however ever one seems to treat me a little less desired in 3-D design, and today I have an assignment to build a 32 inch high yoda hut, and my mother is being a ....

She is offering all her own ideas, calling mine stupid, telling me I don't know what I am doing, and art is the only chance , thing left that I put any confidence into on the entire planet .

My creativity has been restricted, and she is policing me like a Nazi . I feel dead inside because I feel unable to do art, unable to pick up women, unable to socialize , finally this art thing put it over the edge .

Every treats me like I'm different , fragile , because they know where my mind is at anymore, and know that sometimes I just loose it altogether . They step in and think rationally for me, at the levels of a 8th grader , and I am left in my struggles bumbling around in my unbalanced creativity , sometimes looking a genius, often to others looking a fool .

My professor ripped apart my assignment today and rebuilt it for me, and my ego went to shit . I feel rotten, people are only nice to me because of my "problems" , mental problems....

This is my profession, and yet everyone seems to know how to do what I do better than I can .

 

[Eva]

This is the time where you fight (not literally) to let everyone know that YOU know what you wanna do. If they don't let you practice and grow, you won't do any good. And all art teachers are like that...*think s about her 4th period fashion class*

 

[Dead Ascension]

Never give up.
I once heard a quote "If you fail, ts a chance for you to work harder."
What matters is that you do what you can and do everything you can with the best of your abilities.
And those people who are only nice to you when you have problems? They're the kind of people who would betray you in a heartbeat. They dont genuinely care and it's best to not socialise with them. You'll just end up hurting some more.

 

[dr.korytco]

What an inspirational quote , thank you.

 

[Reika Noko]

Aren't you 21?
Imagine what would happen if you just say, "Shut the fuck up, mom. I'm the one doing it so I do whatever the hell I want to do." Make your mom cry. You'll feel better. But seriously, you don't really have to listen to everyone else's opinion on how you work. How an artist make do is by listening to suggestions on how to improve, not some shit like "no this sucks, you should do this instead because it's better than your's".

If you don't man up now, you'll be alone with your mother for the rest of your life. If you don't man up now, then what are you doing as an artist? They're supposed to have strong confidence about themselves or else you can't be capable of being one.

 

[Q]

and my mother is being a ....

Age: 21

what the shit are you doing living with your mother at 21

 

[Vayne Mechanics]

what the shit are you doing living with your mother at 21

And that's wrong how?

Quite a few people who go to university are around that age and still live with their parents.

 

[Shade737]

And that's wrong how?

Quite a few people who go to university are around that age and still live with their parents.

I agree with this since Uni basically puts your life on hold.

 

[Bukkake Sensei]

quit being such a whiny emo bitch you queer holy fuck

 

[ViVi94]

quit being such a whiny emo bitch you queer holy fuck

This is why it just doesn't pay to get help here, I normally just come here to rant. Do your projects without your mom knowing, I think that if someone did their best and thinks that it is beautiful in their own eyes, then the've accomplished something. Why do you think abstract art is so popular? Abstract art is fun to look at but still...
As for girl/social issues, just be yourself it might be hard, but "go with the flow" (shit that saying died 10 years ago.)
being different sucks, but that's what makes an artist, they also think originally, and that's what people like to see in art.

 

[_EX]

If you look optimistacly and think how you can prove everyone wrong and make them think youre the man. Being a defeatist doesnt help anything. Thats the first step. Then stop living for eveyone else. screw what people who dont know you say. If they felt what you feel they would want to do it as much as you do so keep at it.

 

[dr.korytco]

Anyways I am getting help on the huts structure because I don't know a lot about artietetcure (whatever). I am doing the measurements, and drawings, and floor layout and design however.

Yes I live with my mother paying for college would be beyond myself, and jobs are hard to come by , and shit is expensive . It's smart, and they are allowing me to stay with them for the time being.

 

[Shadow Soldier]

what the shit are you doing living with your mother at 21

You're a moron.

 

[Takuya]

Anyways I am getting help on the huts structure because I don't know a lot about artietetcure (whatever). I am doing the measurements, and drawings, and floor layout and design however.

Architecture. Yoda hut ._. What class is that?

Artists are supposed to be independent; have a mind of their own. They should be able to defend their ideas and styles. They're supposed to be different. Draw, paint or craft your own thing some time; if you have to, look to other artists' works, but only for reference. Experiment.

As for your girls issues :v Have you ever been very talkative or had lots of friends before at school or some such?

 

[Leonard]

If you're really the artist that you think you are, then you should know that it's perfectly normal to get criticism from all sorts of (stupid) people and wannabe's. The most important thing is to not let it get to you and carry on, trying to improve. That is, if you ever want to get somewhere with your work.
Fight back, I say.


About your "unsociability", there are ways and means to tackle that. There are several books and videos on things like "small-talk skills" and even special coaches who can help you learn this kind of stuff.
You can also ask other people on the internet, how they learned to overcome their shyness, for example on anonymous message boards like 4channel (4-ch.net).
If you search the internet, I'm sure you'll find something that can help you.

This is why it just doesn't pay to get help here, I normally just come here to rant.

I thought it would be common sense to just ignore not seriously meant support. But oh well.

 

[coolfresh1224]

i wouldn't be worried if you weren't 21 anyway is there a female friend you have