Firstly, everyone, help the guy out. All these posts going back and forth, mesmerized
is correct O_O. This thread started out with barely anything, and suddenly it's full of all sorts.
Onto topic, wow Hiro
[if you don't mind me calling you that ^^], you really remind me of myself, a lot
. Whilst people debate about true love, I must agree, it's a difficult and spontaneous emotion, and CAB_IV
is quite right in saying that true love can be a delusion at times. But of course, love is real, and I think I really summed up all my points in my last post
. I personally think it's alright to call it true love, after all it's so strong an emotion it's not so easy to sum up in words. False love? I actually think such a thing does exist, with labels being used, in situations such as physical relationships - the partners call it love but really that is in denial of the truth; it is merely for personal gain.
I too can be shy, and I've grown to be quite inward, so I know how you can be feeling. You sound like a really friendly guy ^^. I've given you most the advice I can already to be honest. Someone here stated that trying to be a close friend and not a lover could bring harm.. well as you said you already are her best friend. My friend is going through the same as you are, and she has had to find ways to cope with her friend and unrequited love. It is possible, and taking on the ideas of true love not really existing, I think it's alright to assume you can find someone else, with patience, and that you too can find that happy ending. I don't think it's worth destroying the friendship, that would just be a waste, and I've known that to happen with my own friends. It's pointless, and can only bring harm in some cases. She means a lot to you, so be a friend, and push on. You're doing a good job in supporting them, so they must be grateful - already I think you've given them one of the greatest gifts of all.
Take care and good luck with everything.