Today, someone very close to me has just passed away and of course, I am in spiraling depression. What's worse is, I didn't know that he was to die today and I never got to say goodbye or how much I loved him. The last thing I ever said to him was "I'll be back later after school okay?". So my family and I are still in grieving and what I want to know is this; when I'm done grieving, how can I move on with my life? How can I not cry every day for the rest of my life knowing that my loved one is dead?
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Twilight, trust me on this.
Time will heal your wounds.
My grandpa passed away last month, it was sad, the last thing I said to him was ," We're leaving, but we'll be back tomorrow, ok?" I know that it's sad, but trust me you'll move on(Not to sound heartless or anything.
And, if you need to talk, just PM me, I'll be more than happy to talk, ok?
Time will heal your wounds.
My grandpa passed away last month, it was sad, the last thing I said to him was ," We're leaving, but we'll be back tomorrow, ok?" I know that it's sad, but trust me you'll move on(Not to sound heartless or anything.
And, if you need to talk, just PM me, I'll be more than happy to talk, ok?
Just take it one step at a time, I know how you feel, talk about a fun b-day persent, someone you care about leaving you behind. You can talk to me if you would like to Twi' and Stavros is right time will heal the wounds.
"And with her finally words she tried to help me understand, momma whispered softly, Time will ease your pain, Life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same. And she said, how can I help you to say goodbye? It's OK to hurt, and it's OK to cry, Come, let me hold you and I will try. How can I help you to say goodbye?"
"And with her finally words she tried to help me understand, momma whispered softly, Time will ease your pain, Life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same. And she said, how can I help you to say goodbye? It's OK to hurt, and it's OK to cry, Come, let me hold you and I will try. How can I help you to say goodbye?"
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My Chemical Romance. . . a lot of their songs would work. . .For me, it helps if I tlak to people. . .or if I listen to music.
You just have to get your mind off of it and think about something else. I used music, people, video games, books, and a little bit of TV.
But you do have to cry, and it will hit you like a ton of bricks just smacked you in the face and a 2 ton fat lady just sat on you. . ..personal experience. . . .
You just have to get your mind off of it and think about something else. I used music, people, video games, books, and a little bit of TV.
But you do have to cry, and it will hit you like a ton of bricks just smacked you in the face and a 2 ton fat lady just sat on you. . ..personal experience. . . .
Oh, I'm so sorry...I've never had anyone too close to me pass away, at least, I was too young to remember, but I have had pets die and I know how depressing the situation can be. I cried a lot...but it helped. Eventually, I cried less and less until I was finally strong enough to move on. I felt guilty that I was able to move on, but it's what has to happen. No one knows when they're going to die so you just have to try and make the best of the time that you have, and I'm sure that whoever it was that you lost enjoyed their time with you.
Tobuoi is right, it's like Carrie Underwood's song "Starts with Goodbye"
Time heals, the wounds that you feel; Some how, but right now, I guess it's gonna have to hurt, I guess I'm gonna have to cry; And let go of some things I'd love to give to the other side. I guess it's gonna break me down, Like falling when I try to fly; It's sad but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life, Starts with goodbye. Sometimes that's all it take is goodbye, remember you have friends who are willing to talk to you.
Time heals, the wounds that you feel; Some how, but right now, I guess it's gonna have to hurt, I guess I'm gonna have to cry; And let go of some things I'd love to give to the other side. I guess it's gonna break me down, Like falling when I try to fly; It's sad but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life, Starts with goodbye. Sometimes that's all it take is goodbye, remember you have friends who are willing to talk to you.
sorry to hear about your loss and death is very sad, but the main thing you need to remember are the good times you had with this person. im sure if this person's soul was watching over you, he wouldn't want you to mourn over him for the rest of your life. like everyone else has been saying, time will heal the pain. its always nice to remember him, but remembering his death will be painful and won't be healthy. however, remembering the good times you had with him with bring you happiness to think that you had such a good friend.
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One of the most important things to remember is that you are not suffering from depression. It's called mourning. Everyone with a heart does it. It's normal. Don't beat yourself up.
Losing someone is always hard... I was away from my uncle for months because we only have family gatherings on holidays... I believe it was November or October... He was laid off from work, got drunk, and jumped in a freezing creek... His heart froze...
My friend was hit by a car across the street from a high school (not his, but down the street from his). I didn't even know HE was the person who was hit until the day AFTER he died (he was in a coma for a week without my knowledge)... I know, it's a major pain in your heart, and you will never feel that much sorrow... Ever...
Best thing to help would be to visit their siblings/peers/significant other and console them and they will return the favor. Visit the grave, that's one way of getting solace. In death, you still show them love.
My friend was hit by a car across the street from a high school (not his, but down the street from his). I didn't even know HE was the person who was hit until the day AFTER he died (he was in a coma for a week without my knowledge)... I know, it's a major pain in your heart, and you will never feel that much sorrow... Ever...
Best thing to help would be to visit their siblings/peers/significant other and console them and they will return the favor. Visit the grave, that's one way of getting solace. In death, you still show them love.
I remember when my grandpa died. I asked my mom if he'd still be alive in the morning. (I was at his house and slept over. He didn't want to die in the hospital) My mom said he would be alive the next morning. My grandpa was the best person I knew. He always had mints in his pocket and he'd sit in his special chair. Man, I'm almost tearing up just thinking about it.
Bottom line: Life goes on. Time won't stop moving and you've gotta keep up. Here's something for you:
You feel like a candle in a hurricane
Just like a picture with a broken frame
Alone and helpless like you’ve lost your fight
But you’ll be alright, you’ll be alright
You might bend ‘til you break
Cause it’s all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you’ve had enough
You get mad, you get strong
Wipe your hands, shake it off
Then you stand
Here's a poem written by yours truely:
Can't say a word
Because bitter's got your toungue
Can't move a muscle
Because sorrows got you hung
Mourning only cures temporarily
But when it comes down to it
Right when you hit the end
Time will break the bonds
Love will heal the pain
Hoped that helped!!!
Bottom line: Life goes on. Time won't stop moving and you've gotta keep up. Here's something for you:
You feel like a candle in a hurricane
Just like a picture with a broken frame
Alone and helpless like you’ve lost your fight
But you’ll be alright, you’ll be alright
You might bend ‘til you break
Cause it’s all you can take
On your knees you look up
Decide you’ve had enough
You get mad, you get strong
Wipe your hands, shake it off
Then you stand
Here's a poem written by yours truely:
Can't say a word
Because bitter's got your toungue
Can't move a muscle
Because sorrows got you hung
Mourning only cures temporarily
But when it comes down to it
Right when you hit the end
Time will break the bonds
Love will heal the pain
Hoped that helped!!!
Some advice when you recuperate from depression:
Work harder! Don't know what that'll do.
eat tons of ice cream. Or do something that will keep your mind occuppied.
Maybe more?
There has been people that had died and I knew them. Like my friends dad who was somewhat an uncle to me, another friend who's mom died because of cancer (she was well knowned also), my uncle in the philippines who I haven't met in a long time until I went there. He was awesome. Also my other uncle who died when I was 2 years old. I don't remember anything. Whatever you do, don't think of death as much as you can. I did that and I started crying. I started to feel alone. but when I did something else, I felt better.
All in all, don't think of it. Think happy thoughts. Sorry if this made your case worse.
Work harder! Don't know what that'll do.
eat tons of ice cream. Or do something that will keep your mind occuppied.
Maybe more?
There has been people that had died and I knew them. Like my friends dad who was somewhat an uncle to me, another friend who's mom died because of cancer (she was well knowned also), my uncle in the philippines who I haven't met in a long time until I went there. He was awesome. Also my other uncle who died when I was 2 years old. I don't remember anything. Whatever you do, don't think of death as much as you can. I did that and I started crying. I started to feel alone. but when I did something else, I felt better.
All in all, don't think of it. Think happy thoughts. Sorry if this made your case worse.
Thank you so much for all your advice everyone. I hope that the suggestions you've given me will help me with my problem and help me move on.
"Do not dwell on death, for it is what you dwell upon which rules you. Dwell upon what is good and light will shine over your life."
in short you must understand that death is not the end and things will work for the better in the end.
in short you must understand that death is not the end and things will work for the better in the end.
move on...take time...start doing new activities such as sports to take things off your mind
Dont beat yourself up too much about it, your in mourning right now. The best thing to do is to surround yourself with friends. Remember that if you always think about death, it'll distract you from life. Try not to be hard on yourself, cheer up~
I am officially depressed again. Tonight ANOTHER person I'm close to just died! And it was two weeks after my other loved one died! Good lord my life sucks! I'm losing everybody! Who's next, my uncle?
It's okay... Just think of death as a good thing rather than a bad thing.... okay, that didn't help. I give you my sympathy but I can't because this is the internet.
Eat more ice cream! Or bake cookies! That makes me feel better. Or crushing everyone in .hack, Zone of the Enders, SSBM, Kirby Air Ride, or Sonic Adventure 2. Sometimes, I watch heart warming anime's (not true) or read something. Go to your nearest bookstore and read something from there. Sometimes they say cooking can take off personal problems off of you. Do what you always do best or most of the time. And no, your life doesn't suck... There are other people suffering more than you so be happy with what you got!
Eh, I think this thing is a bit harsh at the end.
Eat more ice cream! Or bake cookies! That makes me feel better. Or crushing everyone in .hack, Zone of the Enders, SSBM, Kirby Air Ride, or Sonic Adventure 2. Sometimes, I watch heart warming anime's (not true) or read something. Go to your nearest bookstore and read something from there. Sometimes they say cooking can take off personal problems off of you. Do what you always do best or most of the time. And no, your life doesn't suck... There are other people suffering more than you so be happy with what you got!
Eh, I think this thing is a bit harsh at the end.
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