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[stephaknee]

Going to answer this question indirectly, I guess. My BF and I have an extremely healthy, stable relationship. We get irritated with each other, yes, but we /never/ have fights. Our tastes in music/TV shows/movies differ drastically, for the most part, but we have very similar personalities. We share our interests with each other and respect the other's tastes. Ex-boyfriend and I liked very similar things, but we just weren't compatible at all and the relationship was pretty fucked up. So I think individual interests aren't that important.

 

[Faris]

thanks for sharing ectasy

 

[Ophan]

The Problem here is that while opposites do attract, it isn't mainstream for a relationship between two ppl totally opposite of each other to last longer then that of a relationship that shares similar attitudes, values, and beliefs. In fact, we look for partners who share common ground on major issues, such as abortion, or politics, and etc. Now personality differences are capable of attraction but as far as happiness personality characteristics are to be shared with your partner, which is off and on occasionally, and that perhaps triggers that small bit of irritation you have with your boyfriend, Ecstasy.

Once people are in a committed relationship, it is primarily personality similarity that influences marital happiness because being in a committed relationship entails regular interaction and requires extensive coordination in dealing with tasks, issues and problems of daily living. Whereas personality similarity is likely to facilitate this process, personality differences may result in more friction and conflict in daily life.

to be honest, Love is a series of similarities and differences because it is a relationship that develops over time.

Me and my girlfriend take the opportunity to understand each other, and I often make sacrifices and changes to make her happy as she does with me. Are attitudes and personality are mostly similar. The only big difference between us is our styles and our appearance of course. Any conflicting differences, we try solve in our developing relationship. I can be a crazy son-of-a-bitch, but she still accepts me....she can be kinda weird though
So I guess it works out

 

[Garth]

Date someone who you would love to get to know better.
Date someone you have feelings for.
Date someone you love.

That is all.

 

[Faris]

date someone you are forced to love?

 

[Finland]

I would go with A.5, because I couldn't decide. I haven't had any relationships, so I'm not really sure... But I find it easier to date a guy that has similarities.

 

[khluva010]

just a general consensus.

Is it better to date

A) someone you have an incredible amount in common with
or
B) someone you don't have very much in common with

whats your opinion?

hmmm, depends really. If you want something serious, i guess A but if you just wanna have a little fun and have nothing else better to do, B i guess. As for me, I don't really feel like looking for a real relationship at this point in my life, I'm waaaaay too much of a goof ball!!!! lol but I really don't know it's a legit question. yessir! :]

 

[Faris]

good to hear more personality choices etc.

 

[Raz]

If you don't have anything in common with someone, what do you talk about? D:

 

[Iridium]

You can talk about the differences between one another, there are bound to be some things you have in common with one individual or another though. Doesn't mean a relationship can form out of that though :\

 

[Malevolence]

Just go with A. Its better to have someone who is compatable, someone who will always be there, and that has alot in common. You dont want to have a stranger as a girlfriend.

 

[Faris]

Just go with A. Its better to have someone who is compatable, someone who will always be there, and that has alot in common. You dont want to have a stranger as a girlfriend.

competable?

No i think a.5 is the best option, because you dont want too much in common that you end up feeling like your talking to yourself, yet you don't want polar opposites (damn you chemistry!) either.

well in my opinion anyway

 

[stephaknee]

The Problem here is that while opposites do attract, it isn't mainstream for a relationship between two ppl totally opposite of each other to last longer then that of a relationship that shares similar attitudes, values, and beliefs. In fact, we look for partners who share common ground on major issues, such as abortion, or politics, and etc. Now personality differences are capable of attraction but as far as happiness personality characteristics are to be shared with your partner, which is off and on occasionally, and that perhaps triggers that small bit of irritation you have with your boyfriend, Ecstasy.



to be honest, Love is a series of similarities and differences because it is a relationship that develops over time.

Me and my girlfriend take the opportunity to understand each other, and I often make sacrifices and changes to make her happy as she does with me. Are attitudes and personality are mostly similar. The only big difference between us is our styles and our appearance of course. Any conflicting differences, we try solve in our developing relationship. I can be a crazy son-of-a-bitch, but she still accepts me....she can be kinda weird though
So I guess it works out

lol, BF and I get irritated with each other because we're always together. I have slept at my dorm twice in the last two weeks or so.

 

[Malevolence]

competable?

No i think a.5 is the best option, because you dont want too much in common that you end up feeling like your talking to yourself, yet you don't want polar opposites (damn you chemistry!) either.

well in my opinion anyway

Cool

 

[Ophan]

lol, BF and I get irritated with each other because we're always together. I have slept at my dorm twice in the last two weeks or so.

oh okay, you sound like my sister. She gets irritated being around her boyfriend for too long, cause she needs space. Strangely enough my sister's name is also Stephanie....but that's irrelevant i guess :/

 

[Faris]

Cool

that it is, on a side not where is your rep?