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I honestly don't know where to begin.
Long story short: My sisters are screwing up my mom's birthday before it's even her birthday. My dad is hiding and being a coward, and happens to be the least helpful with my mom's birthday. And I'm the only one who gives a damn. And like last year, my mom isn't happy if not everyone cares to celebrate, or do something fun together as a family -- if it's only me who puts in the effort, she's not happy.
I don't know what else to do or how to make things better for my mom's birthday. I mostly posted this to vent and maybe for moral support or advice.
Spoiler ShowI pointed out to my sisters that they needed to buy my mother a present before her birthday, because I wasn't going to be able to help them out this year in buying it due to low on funds. Therefore, I secured my own present for her early in the beginning of the month. At the time when I told them this, they weren't on board about making my mother's birthday a big deal, because in their stupid mindset, they were like it'd be screw up anyways, because it's hard to please my mom. Which is true, except you'd think they'd know what to do to avoid making last year's mistake. And honestly, I kind of know how my mother feels about her birthday now, because when no one cares about you on your birthday it becomes a shitty birthday, when everyone else in your family is too busy to put time aside for you to celebrate it and stuff. Anyways, throughout most of this month, I've constantly asked what my mother wanted to do on her birthday, what she wanted to eat on her birthday, what kind of cake she'd want, and what she'd like for a present. What did my sisters and dad do? NOTHING. The whole entire month, I've stressed about her birthday by asking her these questions and reminding her about her birthday coming up, because despite all the crap my family is doing, it's important.
Now that doesn't sound so bad, because I'm on top of it all, right? Think again. I know my mom asked my thirteen year old sister to bake a carrot cake, but my thirteen year old sister complained about not knowing the recipe and couldn't bother to check for everything. In hindsight, we have everything because, my mom got the ingredients anyways. Therefore, I'm going to be the one who actually makes it and will be winging it, because my thirteen year old sister is equally as self centered as my fifteen year old sister is. (My thirteen year old sister made carrot cake with help a few months ago, so how she no longer knows the recipe she used is beyond me too.) The bright side to this is that my fifteen year old sister actually got my mother a present. Mind you, it was put off till last minute. Has my thirteen year old sister got her a present? NOPE. I really want to bang my head against my desk because, this is incredibly frustrating. And just now, I told my thirteen year old sister to get a present taken care of TODAY.
And now you're probably wondering, why is it a crisis? My fifteen year old sister screwed up her birthday BEFORE it's even my mom's birthday. How? My fifteen year old sister has a boyfriend, who she invites to practically everything. Honestly, I've been tired of seeing her pain in the ass boyfriend as much as my mother has, because it's uncomfortable having him over all the damn time, and being apart of everything, when some stuff we'd like to actually be intermediate family only and nothing else. I shouldn't complain, but I dislike how often he's over, when I can't be comfortable enough to go down into the kitchen for a snack. And there's too much PDA under the roof, when they're together. So, my mom's upset right now at my fifteen year old sister because, she didn't bother asking if he could come over for a concert on the exact same day as my mom's birthday, nor seems to entirely care it's her birthday. To top it off, we're suppose to go to a comedy club on Saturday, because that's something my mom really wanted to do, but didn't have time for her on her actual birthday, because the rest of my family's stuff comes first. However, robots might get in the way of that.
Long story short: My sisters are screwing up my mom's birthday before it's even her birthday. My dad is hiding and being a coward, and happens to be the least helpful with my mom's birthday. And I'm the only one who gives a damn. And like last year, my mom isn't happy if not everyone cares to celebrate, or do something fun together as a family -- if it's only me who puts in the effort, she's not happy.
I don't know what else to do or how to make things better for my mom's birthday. I mostly posted this to vent and maybe for moral support or advice.