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So let's talk about Jane. I've known Jane for about five years and I work with her now so it only makes sense we'd become really close. Seriously the sweetest person you'd ever meet.
You probably see where this is heading already. (I haven't always felt this way; this only happened recently.)
Jane's been dating John for just as long I've known her and they've been very rocky lately. John been a good friend of mine, but [ifthisgetsabusedagainisweartogod]lately something's changed it ain't hard to define[/ifthisgetsabusedagainisweartogod] god damn it can he be horrible to her.
Just so you have an idea of how much I have at stake here: I'm also in a band with John. Like we all know, a band is like a family. Maybe my feelings were born out of the fear that things would turn sour between them and she'd have to cut me out of her life because of my band, or I'm confusing the fact that I care about her a lot with something else.
A pretty delicate situation, yeah… I mean, I like to think that I'd never betray or take advantage of a friend. John basically taught me everything I know musically, whereas if I said something to Jane, I'd be completely taking advantage of her when it's a friend she needs most.
My other friend and band mate has a hobby of being one of the few people who can read me like a book and called me out on this the other night, and since I'm the worst liar ever I defaulted to the truth. We ended up talking about it for a bit and he tells me pretty much what I was already thinking; I'd be sabotaging a lot of the few relationships I have if I said something.
He also told me to start working on distancing myself from her a little bit… which I totally haven't been doing. Last night I made a comment in passing at work about how I wish she wasn't closing so she can grab free pancakes with me. Soon after, she got someone to close for her and I couldn't exactly refuse. (We also got stoned. Best free pancake day ever.)
Okay, but really though, just… diddly, man. I've been marinating in self-loathing for about a week now. What am I doing? What did I dig myself into?
You probably see where this is heading already. (I haven't always felt this way; this only happened recently.)
Jane's been dating John for just as long I've known her and they've been very rocky lately. John been a good friend of mine, but [ifthisgetsabusedagainisweartogod]lately something's changed it ain't hard to define[/ifthisgetsabusedagainisweartogod] god damn it can he be horrible to her.
Just so you have an idea of how much I have at stake here: I'm also in a band with John. Like we all know, a band is like a family. Maybe my feelings were born out of the fear that things would turn sour between them and she'd have to cut me out of her life because of my band, or I'm confusing the fact that I care about her a lot with something else.
A pretty delicate situation, yeah… I mean, I like to think that I'd never betray or take advantage of a friend. John basically taught me everything I know musically, whereas if I said something to Jane, I'd be completely taking advantage of her when it's a friend she needs most.
My other friend and band mate has a hobby of being one of the few people who can read me like a book and called me out on this the other night, and since I'm the worst liar ever I defaulted to the truth. We ended up talking about it for a bit and he tells me pretty much what I was already thinking; I'd be sabotaging a lot of the few relationships I have if I said something.
He also told me to start working on distancing myself from her a little bit… which I totally haven't been doing. Last night I made a comment in passing at work about how I wish she wasn't closing so she can grab free pancakes with me. Soon after, she got someone to close for her and I couldn't exactly refuse. (We also got stoned. Best free pancake day ever.)
Okay, but really though, just… diddly, man. I've been marinating in self-loathing for about a week now. What am I doing? What did I dig myself into?