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Re: a problem that might need help from those with alot of expirience
thats really really heavy, im really sorry to hear that.
i think if you want to talk to him, do it. tell him how you feel.
thats really really heavy, im really sorry to hear that.
i think if you want to talk to him, do it. tell him how you feel.
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i tried texting him, but he wont respond, i tried visiting him but his mom wont let me, i tried e mail, everything,
i dont know what else to do.
i tried texting him, but he wont respond, i tried visiting him but his mom wont let me, i tried e mail, everything,
i dont know what else to do.
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^Best advice evar.
But in all seriousness give him time to cool down and figure himself out; he just needs a bit of space.
However if he does come back try and reason with him to postpone the wedding. He said it himself, he's not ready to start a life outside of the house yet so hopefully he'll comply.
And postponing saves you time to do other more important things like go to college, get a job etc. (there examples, honestly you can do as you please) You're a bit young to be getting married in the first place so rushing into things can lead to relationship issues down the road.
Hope that helps a bit.
^Best advice evar.
But in all seriousness give him time to cool down and figure himself out; he just needs a bit of space.
However if he does come back try and reason with him to postpone the wedding. He said it himself, he's not ready to start a life outside of the house yet so hopefully he'll comply.
And postponing saves you time to do other more important things like go to college, get a job etc. (there examples, honestly you can do as you please) You're a bit young to be getting married in the first place so rushing into things can lead to relationship issues down the road.
Hope that helps a bit.
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Your at the wrong website for something like this.
Your at the wrong website for something like this.
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He's using you as a scapegoat because he's only just realised the severity of his actions...likely caused by immaturity on his scope.
Wait it out, but in all honesty I can't see this ending well...
He's using you as a scapegoat because he's only just realised the severity of his actions...likely caused by immaturity on his scope.
Wait it out, but in all honesty I can't see this ending well...
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I'm really sorry to hear that. Time is what all of you need including his mother. You have to remember how conflicting his heart must be torn between the two the most important women in his life. Let him come to you when he is ready. I hope every works out.
I'm really sorry to hear that. Time is what all of you need including his mother. You have to remember how conflicting his heart must be torn between the two the most important women in his life. Let him come to you when he is ready. I hope every works out.
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Such a stupid fucking question. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it's obvious beyond the point that your boyfriend is not ready to be in a serious relationship let alone married. If he's unwilling to commit to you because he's too concerned with pleasing his mother, he is not ready for all of the shit that you two had planned on.
So here's what you do, in an easy three-step process;
1. Go to his residence physically (only because he's too much of a wuss to give you some closure -- seriously, I would NOT be proud of dating this guy), and ask him face-to-face whether or not he is still your boyfriend.
2. If his answer is "yes", give him a choice between growing a pair and telling his mother to shove it or losing you forever, but even if you stay with him, for fucks sake don't jump into a marriage at the age of nineteen.
3. If his answer is "no", then go home and cry for as long as you need to until you're ready to fall in love with somebody new. Hopefully somebody a little more mature.
It's really that simple, but I've got to be honest and say that your boyfriend sounds like a self-pitying pussy.
Such a stupid fucking question. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it's obvious beyond the point that your boyfriend is not ready to be in a serious relationship let alone married. If he's unwilling to commit to you because he's too concerned with pleasing his mother, he is not ready for all of the shit that you two had planned on.
So here's what you do, in an easy three-step process;
1. Go to his residence physically (only because he's too much of a wuss to give you some closure -- seriously, I would NOT be proud of dating this guy), and ask him face-to-face whether or not he is still your boyfriend.
2. If his answer is "yes", give him a choice between growing a pair and telling his mother to shove it or losing you forever, but even if you stay with him, for fucks sake don't jump into a marriage at the age of nineteen.
3. If his answer is "no", then go home and cry for as long as you need to until you're ready to fall in love with somebody new. Hopefully somebody a little more mature.
It's really that simple, but I've got to be honest and say that your boyfriend sounds like a self-pitying pussy.
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Re: a problem that might need help from those with alot of expirience
^ or just have sex with him.
^ or just have sex with him.
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Just Say No.
Probably worst advice ever to run away from him and escape marriage. But for what Sam says, Yeah.... don't get married so young!
at this age your supposed to go to college, not have babies!
anyways... I'm not a relationship kind of person. I've never been in love. I've never had a serious relationship. I just go along with whoever I really like at the time and see if its all good... but, never love -I can tell you that for sure.
anyways.
IMO, wait till YOU'RE READY, are you?
if all of these problems are going on at once, maybe its a sign that he's not the right person?
he's 19. On this day in age, I haven't heard of one nineteen yr old that wants to get married.
sry.
Just Say No.
Probably worst advice ever to run away from him and escape marriage. But for what Sam says, Yeah.... don't get married so young!
at this age your supposed to go to college, not have babies!
anyways... I'm not a relationship kind of person. I've never been in love. I've never had a serious relationship. I just go along with whoever I really like at the time and see if its all good... but, never love -I can tell you that for sure.
anyways.
IMO, wait till YOU'RE READY, are you?
if all of these problems are going on at once, maybe its a sign that he's not the right person?
he's 19. On this day in age, I haven't heard of one nineteen yr old that wants to get married.
sry.
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Listen. It's his mom's fault. Not yours. Don't feel depressed. Tell him that he can't let her control him. He can make his decisions on his own, thank you very much.
Seriously? She CRIED?
She's a fucking attention whore. You'd expect this from a 3 year old.
"I WANT MY CANDY! WAH!".
Seriously. She's doing this to make him feel really bad. She's fucking brainwashing him! =\
Listen. It's his mom's fault. Not yours. Don't feel depressed. Tell him that he can't let her control him. He can make his decisions on his own, thank you very much.
Seriously? She CRIED?
She's a fucking attention whore. You'd expect this from a 3 year old.
"I WANT MY CANDY! WAH!".
Seriously. She's doing this to make him feel really bad. She's fucking brainwashing him! =\
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i never seen him so hurt....i felt bad for him, he loved his mom, thats why i wanted her aproval from my last thread here.
anyways....ill do what u say, and thanx for helping me.
he just couldnt cope with the loss of his mom's love...i can understand that
i never seen him so hurt....i felt bad for him, he loved his mom, thats why i wanted her aproval from my last thread here.
anyways....ill do what u say, and thanx for helping me.
he just couldnt cope with the loss of his mom's love...i can understand that
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Loss of his mom's love?
Aqua13, a mom could NEVER stop loving their child.
No matter how much they mate dislike, or worse yet, hate their child.
Deep down, your bf's mother still loves him with all her heart.
She could never stop loving her son.
And that's fact.
Also, follow Sam's advice.
And don't think about marriage at such a young age.
Put your focus on things a 19 year old girl should be putting her focus on.
Like college and getting a job.
Loss of his mom's love?
Aqua13, a mom could NEVER stop loving their child.
No matter how much they mate dislike, or worse yet, hate their child.
Deep down, your bf's mother still loves him with all her heart.
She could never stop loving her son.
And that's fact.
Also, follow Sam's advice.
And don't think about marriage at such a young age.
Put your focus on things a 19 year old girl should be putting her focus on.
Like college and getting a job.
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i am at college, and i do have a job, i even have my own apartment. my mom stopped loving me when she found out i was bi (or thats how it felt), we lost onctact and i visit my baby brother from time to time. and i will. maybe she does now, but idk....it feels like all love is lost for me when my mom kicked me out.
his mom kicked him out. he told me his mom stopped loving him.
i am at college, and i do have a job, i even have my own apartment. my mom stopped loving me when she found out i was bi (or thats how it felt), we lost onctact and i visit my baby brother from time to time. and i will. maybe she does now, but idk....it feels like all love is lost for me when my mom kicked me out.
his mom kicked him out. he told me his mom stopped loving him.
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Face it, even if she actually uttered the words, "you're not my daughter! I don't love!" out of her mouth she still loves you.
She helped make you, you were born from her, she nurtured you for most of your life.
She loves you, it's just the stress, anxiety and hormones kicking in.
Face it, even if she actually uttered the words, "you're not my daughter! I don't love!" out of her mouth she still loves you.
She helped make you, you were born from her, she nurtured you for most of your life.
She loves you, it's just the stress, anxiety and hormones kicking in.
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Re: a problem that might need help from those with alot of expirience
His mother overreacts.:thumbdown:
His mother overreacts.:thumbdown:
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yeah, iknow, i try not to see it the way i was thinking it back on my last post.
ehhh....this is getting derived from my other problems.
yeah, iknow, i try not to see it the way i was thinking it back on my last post.
ehhh....this is getting derived from my other problems.
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