Ok I figure I will post here because it is as good as any place to get advice. Well I am in college right now and I still havent had a single real girlfriend which annoys me. I figure my problem is that I never meet any new girls partially because of my major (computer science and engineering which is male dominated) and partially because I have no idea where to go to meet girls. I dont drink and I am not huge on parties because most college kids go to parties just to get drunk. So I was wondering if anyone had ideas on where I could meet girls
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You know, I understand exactly how you feel, Henskie, in the sense that kids my age are only interested in drinking.
I'd suggest going to different places with a few - not many - friends, just hanging around in places like the cinema, or other things. Whatever you like to do.
But you know, you could go to a party without drinking. You don't need alcohol to have a good time. As a girl, I think it's quite nice to see a guy who isn't set on going out to get ridiculously drunk.
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I'd suggest going to different places with a few - not many - friends, just hanging around in places like the cinema, or other things. Whatever you like to do.
But you know, you could go to a party without drinking. You don't need alcohol to have a good time. As a girl, I think it's quite nice to see a guy who isn't set on going out to get ridiculously drunk.
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Just try to get out more and be yourself. Only louder and with more talking so that girls can easily identify you as you...if you don't talk, they have no idea who you really are. Basically, what snowdog said is what I have to say as well, but if there are any clubs at your school or anything, you could always check them out. Mind you, a lot of school clubs are lame, but still. And again, just hang around places and be as outgoing as you can. Girls like funny guys, too, so should you think of a joke or a humorous comment to make, even if it's when you're taking your order at Subway or something, say it.
I totally agree, 100%
It's all about the connections. Go to social places with your friends, other than the bar or places where you or they are likely to get drunk. Be yourself and have fun! Most importantly, keep an eye out for opportunities.
I heard that girls love guys with great personalities; it isn't always about the looks, so don't worry too much about that. Be friendly and outgoing, enthusiastic and lively, and you'll have no trouble at all in finding the girl of your dreams, or heck- a girlfriend.
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I know exactly how you feel since I too am an engineer, with about 2 girls for every 40 guys in the classroom.
My suggestion would be to go to parties, but don't drink if you don't want to. If your friends do drink and know where parties are, then offer to be the designated driver so you can "case the hood" and still remember it in the morning. also, people will respect you more and likely won't force you to drink. Walk around introduce yourself and socialize. If the girl seems fairly sober and if you make a good impression, get her name and number and hope that she'll remember you when you call.
Another suggestion would be around the first month or so of the school year, wander around your dorm building (assuming you live in a co-ed dorm), and introduce yourself. This will probably be your most opportune time to meet people. One thing I must warn you about, make sure that there is a respectable distance between you and your prospect because if things go south, you will still have to see her if she lives near you. A general rule of thumb: If she lives on the floor above, below, or the same floor as you, then dont seek an actual relationship with her. If she lives in the same building, but the two of you are aren't living next to each other then you could go ahead and try it. If she lives in an entirely different building then by all means go for it.
My suggestion would be to go to parties, but don't drink if you don't want to. If your friends do drink and know where parties are, then offer to be the designated driver so you can "case the hood" and still remember it in the morning. also, people will respect you more and likely won't force you to drink. Walk around introduce yourself and socialize. If the girl seems fairly sober and if you make a good impression, get her name and number and hope that she'll remember you when you call.
Another suggestion would be around the first month or so of the school year, wander around your dorm building (assuming you live in a co-ed dorm), and introduce yourself. This will probably be your most opportune time to meet people. One thing I must warn you about, make sure that there is a respectable distance between you and your prospect because if things go south, you will still have to see her if she lives near you. A general rule of thumb: If she lives on the floor above, below, or the same floor as you, then dont seek an actual relationship with her. If she lives in the same building, but the two of you are aren't living next to each other then you could go ahead and try it. If she lives in an entirely different building then by all means go for it.
^Good advice, Jutting Rock!
For the most part, I agree.
Parties ARE the easiest place to meet people, and people do go with the intent of meeting others so people are more disposed to socialise and be friendly. Like you, not everybody drinks at parties, so not all girls are going to be staggering about blind drunk.
I'm just curious, how do your friends meet girls?
Don't give up hope.
For the most part, I agree.
Parties ARE the easiest place to meet people, and people do go with the intent of meeting others so people are more disposed to socialise and be friendly. Like you, not everybody drinks at parties, so not all girls are going to be staggering about blind drunk.
I'm just curious, how do your friends meet girls?
Don't give up hope.
i agree with snow
who cares if you dont drink
not everyone who goes to a party drinks too.
just go and be yourself.hang out with your friends.
you'll meet girls, dont worry
srry, if im just repeating what they said.ha
who cares if you dont drink
not everyone who goes to a party drinks too.
just go and be yourself.hang out with your friends.
you'll meet girls, dont worry
srry, if im just repeating what they said.ha
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lulz I agree with EVERYBODY!
Seriously, it actually shouldn't be too hard for you; even if you are fugly (I don't know if you are or not, I try not to go on assumptions when I help people with stuff like this).
One of the greatest ways? Go to the mall. If a girl is walking around and some guy isn't carrying her bags, she is probably single. Or go for groups. Generally at least ONE of them is single.
But how do I approach this/these girl/girls? Go with what YOU like. If you are a music nut, try talking to someone in FYE or something. If you see that she is checking out one CD, give her the name of a band that she may like based on that CD. Talk to her about the bands hooks, how the vocals are, if they have a kick-ass drummer, etc. [If you don't like music-which is weird-then go with something else. Stop into Best Buy. Go to Waldenbooks. Not Victoria's secret though. Single+guy in there=pervert]
But what do I do from there? You simply talk to them about something. Ask what she majors in, what school she goes to, if she likes it there, etc. If you guys hit things off, exchange numbers, and then ask her out to something fun, like bowlingor mini golf. It breaks the cliche of a nice dinner at your 'favorite' restaurant. As if it's really your favorite. We all know you prefer KFC! xD
That's my two-cents. All credit goes to Made and Hitch.
Seriously, it actually shouldn't be too hard for you; even if you are fugly (I don't know if you are or not, I try not to go on assumptions when I help people with stuff like this).
One of the greatest ways? Go to the mall. If a girl is walking around and some guy isn't carrying her bags, she is probably single. Or go for groups. Generally at least ONE of them is single.
But how do I approach this/these girl/girls? Go with what YOU like. If you are a music nut, try talking to someone in FYE or something. If you see that she is checking out one CD, give her the name of a band that she may like based on that CD. Talk to her about the bands hooks, how the vocals are, if they have a kick-ass drummer, etc. [If you don't like music-which is weird-then go with something else. Stop into Best Buy. Go to Waldenbooks. Not Victoria's secret though. Single+guy in there=pervert]
But what do I do from there? You simply talk to them about something. Ask what she majors in, what school she goes to, if she likes it there, etc. If you guys hit things off, exchange numbers, and then ask her out to something fun, like bowlingor mini golf. It breaks the cliche of a nice dinner at your 'favorite' restaurant. As if it's really your favorite. We all know you prefer KFC! xD
That's my two-cents. All credit goes to Made and Hitch.
Henskie, why would you want to meet a girl at a party? Why wouldn't you want to meet a girl at a place that you actually like to go?
Ok, ok, I get it. You don't care what kind of girl. You just want it to be a girl. Desperation.
Ok, ok, I get it. You don't care what kind of girl. You just want it to be a girl. Desperation.
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Wow. You are a real jerk.
STFU and GTFO of the Help&Support section kthxbai
STFU and GTFO of the Help&Support section kthxbai
Erm, I'm pretty sure that can be considered flaming...and well, to actually be on topic...
Well, all I can say is just keep doing what you're doing. Go to places you actually like to go. You'll eventually meet someone. Chasing girls might bring more harm than good. Who knows who you might end up with. But keep in mind I have a pessimistic attitude, so you might want to ignore my advice...
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Ok well you could go to the mall, there are lots of girls there. You could go with your friends and go girl huntin! ok, ok, erase the girl huntin part, but for the most part you'll find plenty of girls at the mall. and it's fun! (the mall)
Dude, us college guys have it harder than ever! It seems like the girls have changed completely than what they were before! Some advice: If you do happen to go to parties to meet the girls, remember, thats what you'll get. Party girls.
As a non-stereotypical-frat-boy, I learned that sorority chicks are way to busy for boys. I have dated two sorority girls, and just fell into their drama.
I work at the campus activities at my university, and well, its so easy to meet girls when you're at every single event on campus! I mean, just attend these kinda things, get involved, and join some groups. If you're a computer science major, there has to be some kind of student orgainizations related to it.
Hope this helps.
As a non-stereotypical-frat-boy, I learned that sorority chicks are way to busy for boys. I have dated two sorority girls, and just fell into their drama.
I work at the campus activities at my university, and well, its so easy to meet girls when you're at every single event on campus! I mean, just attend these kinda things, get involved, and join some groups. If you're a computer science major, there has to be some kind of student orgainizations related to it.
Hope this helps.
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lol. Do as I say, not as I do.
But seriously, it is annoying to watch people post in this section without helping at all, if there is actually an issue with the thread maker. One of my pet peeves.
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I pretty much agree with what everyone else said.
just remember to be yourself when you talk to a girl. I personally hate it when guys try to impress me by saying things that are obvisually not true. don't brag too much, but don't seem insecure either. don't dominate the conversation, but don't let her do all the talking either. before you talk to a girl, sometimes it helps to plan what you're gonna say so it's easier to break the ice. compliment her - don't tell her she's hot or sexy, but that she's pretty or beautiful.
that's all the advice I can think of to tell you. hope it helped. good luck!
just remember to be yourself when you talk to a girl. I personally hate it when guys try to impress me by saying things that are obvisually not true. don't brag too much, but don't seem insecure either. don't dominate the conversation, but don't let her do all the talking either. before you talk to a girl, sometimes it helps to plan what you're gonna say so it's easier to break the ice. compliment her - don't tell her she's hot or sexy, but that she's pretty or beautiful.
that's all the advice I can think of to tell you. hope it helped. good luck!
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^The above statement tells me im doing everything right.
dont worry you'll have more friends. xD
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Seriously though, girls here say they like a guy with these qualities and so far ive been doing a good job, I havent had many problems in my relationship either =/
XD dude XD
My idea upon this subject is that some girls CANT SEE PAST THERE GOD DAM NOSE.... they are good guys like me m_r1, Cmurder*already taken as I might add* yet they fail to see what we do for them =.= and it bugs me cuz half my life I was the silent type I never said much other than a few nods, and what not. BUT here I am and at one point I took hits for the girl I liked...alot^^... she never understood why I did what I did... and I grew to like her less, cuz I gave a simple clear msg, not with words but with actions
and yet she failed to see it...... but there are also girls that notice these things but dont do SHYT about it.... =.= *sigh* and some women say that guys need to get their heads screwed on right =.= well Mine is screwed on perfectly fine... I think *checks the nuts and bolts* hmmm things seem to be in order XD
Aside from that off-topic note I made, I think that trying to be noticed by someone isnt the best way to.... especially if the other person is so GOD DAM thick skulled =.= yet, still guys like me we tend to not care much but when we find something worth protecting we do it with our lives =.= I think alot of ppl should learn to try to stand back for a second and look at the BIGGER BIGGER PICTURE...
Like I said words mean nothing.... talking is good for reasoning.... action cost something.... stepping forth for someone fallen, thats what makes ppl human.... you cant just act and cant just speak
You have to act and speak, and like rikubaka said "Just be yourself" cuz thats wat will really be the determining factor
*BIG NOTE: SRY TO ANY PERSON THAT I MAY HAVE OFFENED IN MAKING MY POINT*
My idea upon this subject is that some girls CANT SEE PAST THERE GOD DAM NOSE.... they are good guys like me m_r1, Cmurder*already taken as I might add* yet they fail to see what we do for them =.= and it bugs me cuz half my life I was the silent type I never said much other than a few nods, and what not. BUT here I am and at one point I took hits for the girl I liked...alot^^... she never understood why I did what I did... and I grew to like her less, cuz I gave a simple clear msg, not with words but with actions
and yet she failed to see it...... but there are also girls that notice these things but dont do SHYT about it.... =.= *sigh* and some women say that guys need to get their heads screwed on right =.= well Mine is screwed on perfectly fine... I think *checks the nuts and bolts* hmmm things seem to be in order XD
Aside from that off-topic note I made, I think that trying to be noticed by someone isnt the best way to.... especially if the other person is so GOD DAM thick skulled =.= yet, still guys like me we tend to not care much but when we find something worth protecting we do it with our lives =.= I think alot of ppl should learn to try to stand back for a second and look at the BIGGER BIGGER PICTURE...
Like I said words mean nothing.... talking is good for reasoning.... action cost something.... stepping forth for someone fallen, thats what makes ppl human.... you cant just act and cant just speak
You have to act and speak, and like rikubaka said "Just be yourself" cuz thats wat will really be the determining factor
*BIG NOTE: SRY TO ANY PERSON THAT I MAY HAVE OFFENED IN MAKING MY POINT*
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