Okay, I'm just going give my opinion on each problem you have thus far stated. Please be advised that this is my opinion, and so please do not become upset. That would make me feel terrible! But I digress. Overall, I know EXACTLY what you are going threw. Heck, I've had those kinds of problems since I was in grade 4! But let me just go threw them.
For those who don't know, I am in 8th grade right now. But lately things have made me almost hate going to school and blame myself for what other people do. Firstly, in sixth and (half of) seventh grade, I was that cute kid that everyone liked and had a crush on. I don't know exactly what happened, but by now, I have a small group of friends and that is it. I don't think I changed at ALL...people say I did, but I know I didn't. Basically, I get harassed daily because Im skater, not "cool", and I am actually really smart. To the point where I almost pretend to be stupid to fit in with people. I am in mostly honors classes, but I didn't make honors science and I am almost afraid to answer questions without people laughing and saying "Wow...what a nerd".
I am going to state this right away. In my experience, grades 4-9 are the worst thing to go threw as a kid. Trust me, I know. I've almost finished grade 10 now, and I'm also 15 years old, just to relate. But of course, I haven't completely seen whats in store for me for the rest of High School, so I can't be %100 certain. But I'm getting a little off topic here, so let me continue. About the "Small group of friends" and onward thing, I sympathize with you. I know exactly what you mean. And unfortunately it isn't going to get better until you can move away from your friends and other kids. I know this may seem sad, but its the truth. After reading that all, I can see that your friends also treat you badly, just like the others do. I also have gone threw this. The best you can really do is just get away from them. But chances are that this will not happen until you go to high school. (Unless you are already in high school, and that the grading system is slightly different where you live.)
Secondly, a huge issue. People think I am gay. Not just cliche metrosexual gay (Which I am definitely not xD) people actually think I like men. Which I do not...at all. People honestly think I am going to come out of the closet, and I used to laugh about it and deny it but it has honestly become a huge problem. I know Fl would die of laughter with this, but people really do think it, and I don't act gay at all. That isn't a persuading lie, I mean it. D:
It may be because I haven't had a girlfriend in a long time, which leads to another problem...
Another thing I went threw, and to be honest, still do. For me it all started in Grade 4 when kids would always taunt me about being gay. (Among other things.) And it makes me feel sad to hear its happening to you. But again, I am going off topic. Yeah, that whole thing about kids saying you are gay is probably a bi product of the treatment you receive from kids. Trust me, it probably has nothing to do with you, or how you act. Its just because how kids think of you/treat you that they bring this up. And also, DO NOT REACT TO IT. That just fuels the fire. TRUST ME. Just reply with something that either changes the topic, or just plain ignore them. It WILL NOT help if you react to it, either by playing along, or reacting to it negatively.
Lack of confidence. There is a girl I have had a huge crush on this year, and I can clearly tell she is different. She talks to me, doesn't care that I'm not popular, and I can clearly tell she isn't shallow and would consider me a friend. But...she is indeed flirty, and I can't tell if she likes me or if she doesn't. It's not one of those longshot no hope things, I honestly have no idea if she DOES or DOESN'T like me back. I can't look her in the eyes, I talk really quietly, and I can't think of anything to say. In the middle of history, she would just turn around and look at me and I would feel all awkward and move around and not look her in the eyes. I want to ask her to the formal but have no idea how...it is in two months. On top of that, I find trouble making friends with girls now. I just can't open my mouth and say "hey" to a girl in the hallway that I've talked to only once before and would like to continue talking to.
Oh boy, I'm afraid I can't help you on the first one, mostly because its something I still lack. Though for me, its not with girls. Its just saying no to other people... But anyways, I know this kind of girl you are describing. And from my experience she's just a nice, flirty girl, who treats everyone nice. But she could also be hitting on you, but seeing as how you have stated that she acts like this to everyone I say she's just being nice and a bit of a flirt. And also, WHATEVER YOU DO, do not be meek, especially if you like said girl. If you have to, talk to her like a jokester. Trust me, this makes talking to people very easy, but this is just me. Also, this also makes people slightly stereotype you. Which way they stereotype you is up in the wind I'm afraid.
All the preps and "ghetto" people in my school hate me. They harass me, call me ugly, stupid, and every girl I have dated they say "Damn, what was she thinking?" I do nothing to deserve it, and I can't stand up for myself. Certain girls that I can't STAND I will talk back to them...like this one girl that looks like a dude, I will just be like, "Shut the f*ck up, start wearing womans clothes". But most of them I can't say anything. I can't like HIT them, so I just can't defend myself. With guys, I CAN hit them, but they are clearly bigger and stronger and I just take their shit.
Ah yes, the school a$$holes. I got this treatment all the time, and from people I considered friends to boot! My best advice to you is to plainly "NOT FEED THE FIRE." Whatever you do, do not give them material to work from. Sure, ignoring them DOES make it WORSE for a couple of months, but eventually they drop it and forget about you. This is ultimately a MUCH better choice then over reacting to them.
And another...my "Best" friend. I've known him since first grade...and he is just so uptight. It may be the way he was raised, but he is horrifically mean. I see him harass other people, with disabilites, mental and physical, and I laugh...hey, it isn't me doing it, I don't feel bad. But he makes fun of everyone, even his friends. I almost never tell him jokes because he will always stare blankly at me and say it isn't funny. He hates me for taking things so seriously, but he gets FIVE TIMES as mad. He punches me in the chin, I shove him to the ground jokingly, he freaks out, goes DBZ on me, and screams that I overreact too much. He and my friends beat the crap out of me on the bus and I say, "Aha...no..guys...seriously......stop..." and he mocks me and imitates me saying I'm a pansy. The second he sees I am mad at him he says I hold grudges too much, and starts acting nice to me. I eventually say, whatever, and forgive him. 7 years of that now. I don't literally have enough friends to just pull out a new best friend.
Yeah, this best friend you describe... NOT WORTH THE EFFORT. Especially if he treats you like this. I used to have a group of friends EXACTLY like this. They would treat me like crap most of the time, though once in a while they acted genuinely nice to me. I only stuck around them because they were the only friends I knew, and I didn't want to be lonely/did not want to lose them. I had said friends from grade 6 to grade 9. And trust me, IT IS NOT WORTH IT. I know this fact may be sad but... Its the truth. They obviously do not see you as a friend, or they just don't respect you. They are not worth your time and effort. Break all ties to them at once I say! Though this may be tough until you are in high school. But this is just from what I have experienced in my own life, so this may not be the best answer for you.
Sometimes, you don't realize how real the steriotypical, cliche bullying and unacceptance is until you are on the receiving end of it. I went up to a kid that I used to bully in sixth grade and just apologized to him. He was confused, but I didn't care. I get it now.
I completely agree with you. And to be honest, proud that you apologized to this kid. I have never talked to you before, but am still quite proud that you did this. In fact, you get a GOLD STAR, just for it. You're the first person I have met that has admitted this.
Lastly, one of my friends. I went out with a girl named Danielle, I may have told some of you. Break up, back together, love, hate, break up, back together, for 2 years. Eventually, I slapped myself in the face and faced reality...she was a deceitful whore and wasn't good enough for me. She lied and I could not trust her. She ended up moving when I still had mixed feelings. In the begining of this year she said all the times we were fighting she still loved me. I literally had a breakdown trying to convince myself it was another lie, and this was confirmed when I said I would "think about it" and she went out with one of her ex boyfriends the next day and still is going out with him. The mental anguish from finding the only person who still cared for me in that way backing down and hurting me even more was horrible. Now, Danielle has a friend named Victoria. I met her through Danielle, and we have been good friends since. She always acted kinda weird around me like I said about the girl I currently like, and last month her friend told me, "Hey, do you like Vicky? You seem like you do..."
I obviously am not stupid, and I don't act like I like her, so I got the point that she was asking her if I liked her because she liked me. She confirmed this. So now, I know the situation Victoria is in, and she isn't the type of person I really want to go out with at the moment. Should I just pretend I don't know? or let her down know and effect our friendship?
Oh. The big bonanza of the bunch. My best advice to you here is to just let her down easy. I know it may be tough, but just ignoring her is about the worst choice you can make, even though it is the easiest one to do. Yeah, just to let you know, relationships suck as a teenager. They truly do.
So, guess what? I asked my "best friend" why it's always me that is the butt of every joke. He says "because you don't react". If I DID react, they would call me a pansy, no fun, a wussbag, and would get pissed at me. I feel I am too weak to do anything back, and even though I can pounce on one of my friends and punch them in the arm, I can't find the strength to do something I REALLY want to do- Punch my "best friend" right in the face. But of course, I can't, because he is the hypocritical manipulative asshole.
Yeah, that manipulative asshole thing pretty much describes people like him. It may not describe him all that well, but from what I have gone threw, he is just not worth the effort.
I wana ask the girl I like to it, but I don't have really any means of communication other than person. I want to get to know her better but I don't have the courage/ can't think of a situation where it wouldn't seem weird to ask for her screenname. I don't know what to do, it's a simple question but I am afraid to ask her. Things would be so much easier if i talked to her out of school, and of course, even finding a way to that is becoming difficult for me.
Okay, now for the one that makes me feel bad... But to be honest with you... Do not get in a relationship. Its that simple. It may seem stupid, specially with how kids are these days. But the truth is that you are only 13, and in grade 8 to boot. I mean, you still have so much of your childhood ahead of you, and you shouldn't waste it by trying to grow up to fast. It also hurts, specially as a teenager. My best advice to you is to wait until your 16. Even better, wait till you've graduated. But again, this is just my view, and what I have decided to do in MY life. So if you do not agree with what I'm saying, don't take it to heart. This is juts my advice to you, and I am not in charge of your own life.
It may just be that she is a nice person, but she has NEVER been mad at me. She laughs at all the stupid things I say, and she has never actually been angry at me. Is this a sign that she likes me, or is she just the type of person that is ...nice?
I can't really tell if we are flirting or not. Like, in art, me and my friend were rolling a circular tape-thing back and forth, and then I got up for a minute. When I came back, I didn't know where it was. I asked her, and she smiled and said she didn't know. A minute later i saw it on her wrist. She put it down and got up for a minute and I took it from her.
We did that like ten times.
Is that just stupid stuff, or is she flirting with me?
That is for you to find out on your own. No one else can do more for you than to encourage you.
I have her screenname now, and I Imed her. We talked a couple of times, but I'm starting to realize more how she feels. I mean, I will say something, she will laugh or agree, but thats it. She never IMs me, I always Im her, and she just says "lol" "lol" "lol" "yea lol" "yea"...and i do anything to get her to talk. But I get the feeling I am a waste of her time and she is just a flirty person who doesnt want to bother with me. What makes me die inside is that theres kids on her myspace like "YO i saw ur pic and ur so hot so i thought i gota add you c/b k?" and she falls all over them. This honestly, honestly, makes me want to kill myself. Im not close enough to her to ask her about that stuff, and I am not friends with her friends to it's even harder.
I don't wana give up on her, but I need to know. DON'T tell me to just "ask her out" i need to progress slowly. How can I tell if she is just bad at making conversation, or if she doesn't want to talk to me?
Now from what I see, she's probably not very interested in the topic, not you as a person. Maybe try talking about things you both like, and not try to concentrate on things you just like, or things you just think she likes
Give me some ways that I can make our relationship more intimate, so she can take me seriously and think of whether or not she likes me. I know she doesn't have a crush on anyone right now, and I'm mature enough to realize that its possible for people to fall in love with you if they neccesarily didn't initially. I'm so confused, and frustrated, and I'm running out of time.
Well, nothing else to do than just ask her right? Simple as that.
You may say this is all emo, whiney complaining, becuase I haven't given it time but I CAN'T STAND it.
No... Just part of being a teenage really.
Should I just tell her, knowing what she will say, but having it off my chest?
You don't know how annoying it is when i try to talk to her about the day and she literally doesnt type more than a word at a time. The second she sensed me trying to get closer, she totally blocked me out. =/
Like I said, just ask her. And also, like I also said, just try talking about something that you both like.
Man, now I completely feel like an asshole. ^-^;;
But like I said, this is just from my own view, so do not let this interfere wiht your own life. I hope this helps, and if you want someone to talk to, just PM me or chat me up on IM or something, I won't bite! In fact, seeing as how similar our lives are, I am now going to call you little bro! Er... Just kidding XD ... Unless you don't mind xD.
Hope it all goes well with asking her and everything! ^_^
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Holy! Wow, this is long... Sorry about that >,>